Evan Marc Katz
Dating coach Evan Marc Katz is the author of Why You're Still Single: Things Your Friends Would Tell You If You Promised Not To Get Mad" and "I Can't Believe I'm Buying this Book: A Commonsense Guide to Successful Internet Dating". He has been seen on The Today Show, The Early Show, CNN and Fox, and featured in The New York Times, Wall Street Journal and Time Magazine. Reach him at www.evanmarckatz.com and read his regular advice columns at www.advicefromasingledatingexpert.com.
Articles by Evan Marc Katz
September 11, 2008
While doing some maintenance work on my boyfriend's computer, I came across pictures of his sister´s friend, who was topless. Since that time, I´ve found other pictures of more of his female friends in various stages of undress, including one fully nude. So what's his deal?
August 11, 2008
I met someone that I adored, but I found out that he was sleeping with someone else. So, I continued my search and met Mr. Wonderful. He adores me, is ready to propose, but I have a problem--our sex life is not good, and I find myself dreaming about Mr. Two-Timer, who was great in bed.
July 24, 2008
I met this wonderful man at physical therapy, whom I noticed from the beginning was attracted to me. The problem is he is my physical therapist. Soon, he started flirting with me, and I followed the lead. Although he has not been direct, the way he looks at me suggests he is interested.
Should I ask him directly if he is interested? I don´t want to look desperate but I think he is worth the risk.
July 17, 2008
On the fourth date with the guy I'm seeing, the issue of sex also came up, and I was straightforward, truthful, and tactful and told him that I made a personal choice to not have sex outside of marriage and that I was a virgin. He said that was great and he really respects that. It was after this conversation that he seemed to change. He wanted to define the relationship, which I was not ready for at this point. On our sixth date, he tells me and I quote "I don´t want to scare you away but…you sort of…complete me".
July 15, 2008
What's the truth? Should women ask men out on first dates? Is it true that a man is "really not that into you" if he's not asking you out?
1) Should women ask out men on first dates?
No. No, they should not. Women asking men on first dates can be taken as aggressive, desperate, and masculine. At the very least, it can signify a loss of power. So I wouldn´t recommend that you ever utter the words, "Would you like to go out with me?" to any men.
This doesn´t contradict anything I´ve said before, because God knows, I´m not an advocate of women acting like helpless shrinking violets. Not at all. But there´s a difference between asking a man out and getting a man to ask you out. I vote strongly for the latter.
July 10, 2008
I am tall, blonde, 36, and curvy. I also have a unique problem. I was raised by a "player type" father, and I am unfortunately too comfortable with their games. As a result, I blow men off very quickly when I see the signs of being a "player". If they don't call me when they say they will, I just ...
July 08, 2008
I've been exclusively dating a nice guy for almost eight months now. What bothers me is that he wants to teach guys how to attract women. The worst thing is that he says he wants to practice picking up women and getting numbers in order to be able to teach them. He says he's not going to use the numbers or anything but he wants to practice so he can teach others and so he gains credibility as an attraction expert. He asked me if that was OK with me. I'm not stupid, and this bothers me a lot. He's told me that he's not going to do it since it bothers me, but this is the 3rd time he's asked this question. He told me not to tell my friends that he asked the question, because they would probably think it was weird. I want to know how or IF I can get him to curb his flirtatious ways.
July 08, 2008
What do you do when your parents don´t approve or feel that the person you love/dating is the right person for you? Do you respect their wishes and find someone who is welcome at home and around your family, or do you follow your heart and stay with the person you love even if your parents may not attend the wedding?
July 08, 2008
I have around 25 people that I speak/preach to on Sunday mornings and I stay in contact with through church services or email. Truly, I can foresee that someday any or all of my single students (ranging in age from 22-55) could find the right person, with one exception. Dan is a very overweight (at ...
July 08, 2008
I am noticing a trend in men who I write to or men who write to me online. They are leaving their phone numbers and when I respond with here's my number, "I'll be home Monday evening", they just email me back leaving their number again and say "call me". I remember you said it was up to them to call, should I just write them off if they don't call me or take the first step?
June 17, 2008
Let´s dispel the notion that there´s something wrong with someone who´s a) on Match.com two years after he signed up, and b) signed up for multiple dating sites. However, online dating CAN be addicting. Just like alcohol can be used recreationally or abusively, so can Match.com. What´s similar is that the users always think that they´ve got it under control, and that nobody´s getting hurt in the process. This is clearly not true.
June 07, 2008
I am a very attractive girl and I tend to meet guys easily and go on dates mostly every weekend. My problem is that it never leads to anything more than that. I don´t know what I'm doing wrong, but the date will go really well and things tend to either move really slow, I won´t hear from them after our date for a week or so, or not at all.
June 06, 2008
I have been online dating for about two months and it's been so-so thus far. My problem is deciding how to list my body type. I'm 5'3" and an hourglass-ish size 10, so while I'm not obese, I'm definitely not "athletic and toned." I'm wondering if this is why guys will view me a lot, but won't make contact. The guys who have made contact have been people that I probably would not have dated normally, i.e., no steady job or just a little odd.
May 31, 2008
Question: He Said "I Love You" on the Fifth Date! Is this normal?
Response: I really relish these role-reversal emails, because it just goes to show that it´s never just a "man" thing or a "woman" thing. Men can be prudish about sex and emotionally vulnerable. Women can be on the fence about commitment and concerned about clingy men. Relationships are about people with emotional needs. And those needs are universal.
September 07, 2007
If you’re a regular reader, you probably knew that I was on the CBS Early Show in July. Appearing with me was one of my all-time favorite clients, Tom Pandolfo. Charming, charismatic, successful, warm, athletic… Tom has it all. The only thing missing in his life is a woman. So, after hiring me as hi...
September 20, 2007
Hi, Evan.
I’m 41, happy with my rounded self, smart, direct, and articulate.
I’ve been told that my lack of dates is due to:
1) Men don’t like smart, direct women, and
2) I’m centered, which sends the message that I don’t need anyone.
Are men really that insecure? I’m certainly not go...
August 30, 2007
A few years ago, I went out with a woman three times in a couple of weeks. We had great chemistry, and despite the fact that I was a customer service representative at JDate pulling in barely $30K, I’d paid for everything. First date was $60. Second date was $90. The third date was brunch the mornin...