Beth Banning
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Articles by Beth Banning
October 12, 2009
The beginning of any relationship is usually the easiest part, but maintaining that relationship-- supporting its health, and happiness is where most of us can use some help. One of the keys to preserving the freshness of a new and vital relationship is by keeping the lines of communication open.
October 05, 2009
The American Dream of financial success, Achieving Excellence in a sport or area of interest, Looking for Key Results in personal goals… we´ve all at one point or another hoped and wished for these. Most of us have also had dreams about developing happy, healthy relationships or increasing self discipline. Who hasn´t had Big dreams? But what happens when the dream is nothing more than a bygone wish? Read on to see how you can have those dreams, then set and actually reach your goals!
September 28, 2009
Here is some relationship advice that offers you the first step toward building, saving or maintaining happy, healthy personal connections. Any relationship is on the way to being saved, if you clue into the "I need" versus the "I am grateful statement behind everyone´s words. Read on to see how.
September 20, 2009
Angry people--they appear to be everywhere. When someone gets angry, what do you do? In tense situations where other people are angry, do you shut down, give them the silent treatment, wish the irritated person would go away or do you try to out bluster them and get annoyed yourself? All of these are common reactions, but none of them really serve us or the other person. That´s because the angry person is coming from their mind and not their heart and we in turn react the same way… with our head. Read on to learn how not to take anger personally and to get to the heart of anger.
September 13, 2009
Creating a successful life requires examining your choices and actions. It is the ongoing commitment to personal development and spiritual growth that ensures you will design the happy and healthy life you envision for yourself. Part of this exploration is to consider societal issues and ethical problems that arise on a daily basis. Here´s one you can consider to help you develop a framework for looking at these issues on your own.
September 07, 2009
Have you ever noticed the labels people have placed on you over the years? Have you been branded with comments like, "selfish" or "clean freak" In the resentment of the moment, have you also applied labels to people you know? The Label Me This- Brand You That contest is all about proving who´s right and who´s wrong. How would you like to opt out of this contest and become the real winner in all your relationships? If so, read on and discover some simple first steps!
August 30, 2009
Do you have such statements as "Look out for number one", "watch your back" or "the world is a dog eat dog place", as a backdrop of your thoughts about life?" Do you think the world is solely driven by competition? If so, have these kinds of thoughts brought you success or do you feel drained and frustrated? Imagine a world where everyone could get what they want at no one else´s expense? What would the world look like to you then? Read on to find out how to get to the YES! of creating what you want, without competing.
August 24, 2009
Don't we all want to grow into the fullest and most authentic expression of ourselves? Shakespeare wrote, "To thine own self be true." When it comes to creating a successful life the place to start is with ourselves. Read on and discover a daily practice to help you really get to know yourself!
August 16, 2009
Do you wonder what happened to that yummy closeness you used to have with your mate? Is the sweetness of that chocolate-like intimacy missing from your relationship? Read on to discover 7 simple ways you can whip the confectionary delight of intimacy back into any relationship.
August 09, 2009
Do any of these self-critical thoughts ever run through your mind in an endless loop; "Why do I do such stupid things?" or "What a jerk I am!" or "What's wrong with me?" If so, how would you like to edit that loop and turn those negative thoughts into a self-confidence building pep talk?
August 02, 2009
Does the dark cloud of "I'm not good enough" raining on your parade? Is a lack of Self-Confidence preventing you from getting to that "silver lining" of your goals? If so, you're not alone. Many people walk around with their protective umbrellas of caution opened to prevent them from getting drenched by all those raindrops of self-doubt.
As the song goes, "Raindrops keep falling on my head." So "Nothing ventured, nothing lost" seems to be their motto.
Low self-esteem and lack of self-confidence often prevent people from basking in the sunshine of success. To start building your self-esteem you need to discover what prevents you from having enough self-confidence in the first place.
July 26, 2009
How often have you needed help but were afraid to ask for it because you were afraid of hearing that dreaded word "NO"? Do you think this fear had any influence on you reaching your goals or your level of personal success? What if you believed that there was a "yes" hidden beneath every "no", what could you ask for than? Read on to discover where to find that hidden "yes" so you can stop going it alone and move powerfully forward.
July 19, 2009
Do you want to believe in magical relationships--the click your heels three times--answer to having healthy, happy and intimate relationships? But does your own life make this desire look impossible? Do you sometimes think, if only I had a partner who was willing to do their fair share. Well look no further. Here's you will find a kind of pixie dust--sprinkle liberally and begin experiencing that magical relationship you've always wanted.
July 12, 2009
Are you frustrated with any of your relationships? Do you have relationship issues that seem to follow you around? Well you've come to the right place. This relationship information will get you started on your way to developing the Relationship Confidence you need in order to experience happier and more satisfying relationships.
July 05, 2009
Do you ever avoid talking about the impact of wars around the world or the economic situation for fear it may turn into a debate, or even a full blown argument? If so, it's time for you to take back the power to have meaningful, enjoyable conversations with your friends.
June 29, 2009
Do you sometimes feel like a piece of paper blown every-which-way in the wind, and without much say in the matter? Or do you often find yourself doing what you think you "should do", rather than what you want to do?
If so, imagine feeling the true freedom of always choosing what you will do, and when you'll do it! If you want to start responding to life on your own terms--well read on for a glimpse of the quickest way you can experience this freedom--which is by redefining your relationship to responsibility.
May 28, 2009
Do you ever get concerned about having one of those important discussions, those crucial conversations that can have a devastating impact on your life if not handled properly or if they don´t go so well? Have you ever experienced how uncomfortable people can feel at the beginning of these conversations?
Would you like to learn how to be more successful at having these discussions and also dramatically increase the possibility that everyone will be happy with the end results? Using the simple checklist offered here can help reduce your nervousness and make your crucial conversations much more satisfying.
May 14, 2009
Do you get down on yourself so often that you feel depressed or weighed down by your negative thoughts? Have you lost the self confidence you once had? It may be helpful to know that you´re not alone.
Many people have an internal dialogue that fuels negative thoughts and hinders their happiness. But there is hope in finding true happiness through all that negative thinking. This article offers practical advice on how to find success through a positive mental attitude and by focusing your attention in exactly the right place.
May 04, 2009
Do you keep getting in relationships where it seems as if you're being taken for granted--where you give, and you give, but get little or nothing in return? Are you beginning to wonder why people keep treating you this way? If so, you are probably also feeling pretty confused, sad, and are beginning to lose what little confidence you had in yourself.
It can be very hard to maintain your self esteem and self confidence when you receive little appreciation and it seems as if the other person just doesn't care. Read on and discover a three-step self-esteem lesson plan for creating love and respect in all your relationships.
April 26, 2009
Do you treat your friends with love and respect, but when it's their turn, they let you down? Do you end up feeling resentful when your friends just don't give into the friendship as much as you do?
Knowing how to deal with this resentment in a positive way--or even better, avoiding it altogether--is an essential pat of mending a broken relationship or preventing your current friendships from being torn apart. This article will give you a clear understanding of why you have built up resentment in the first place and how to prevent losing relationships you care about.
April 14, 2009
Would you like to build your self-confidence and self-esteem? Are you worried it might not be possible because you've had such a long history of put-downs, failures, and negative self-concept? If so, read on because this article will show you why it's never too late to increase your self esteem and you can to take the symptoms of low self-esteem and turn them into the self-confidence you've always wanted.
April 07, 2009
Wouldn't it be nice if you could tell when someone was going to be a cheating girlfriend or cheating boyfriend BEFORE you get involved with them? Don´t you wish there was something you could do that would help you avoid having a cheating spouse? There is something you can do, and it begins with you. As you read on you will discover how to identify what you really want out of a relationship, what they want out of a relationship, and if the twain should ever meet-- or stay together.
April 01, 2009
Do you lack the self-esteem and confidence you need to create healthy and satisfying relationships? Do you sometimes find yourself worrying so much about what other people think of you that motivation or positive thinking is all but out of your reach? Low self-esteem is a common problem that causes many unnecessary anxiety symptoms. Stop worrying and discover how to finally unleash the true power of positive thinking. And you can't do that until you understand how you got here in the first place... read on.
March 24, 2009
Have you ever wondered what unconditional love actually means, or what it would take to give yourself or someone else this kind of love?
We believe everything in your world is a reflection of YOU. And that's the good news!
Why? Because if everything starts with you, then you don't have to FIX, CHANGE, or concern yourself with what's out there; all you need to do is understand and focus unconditional love on yourself.
This newfound self-love will lead you to a life filled with more self-confidence, peace, and authentic happiness—guaranteed.
March 18, 2009
Has someone close to you broken your trust by lying? Is it difficult to get back on track and reestablish that trust relationship you thought you had? If so, there is hope...
March 10, 2009
Do you ever find it difficult to love yourself because you think you're unlovable, you're a failure, or you're just not worth the time? Does your inner critic put you down when you fail live up to your own expectations?
If so, and you're looking for a way to win the inner battle with yourself and find true happiness and a sense of self worth, then this article is for you. Read on and you'll discover important insights about why you're so hard on yourself, and more importantly, how you can turn your inner critic into your inner mentor and develop a true caring, loving relationship with yourself.
March 04, 2009
Nobody wants to settle for a life without the things they really want, but what if you´re still unsure of what those things are for you? How do you move forward to create a life that fills you with joy?
A deeper look may reveal things you never knew about yourself--and without being clear about those things, you may never discover how to find true, authentic happiness. Read on to find out how to determine exactly what you need to be happy now. And in this article you may be pleasantly surprised to learn that this time it´s not all about finding "your life's purpose."
January 13, 2009
Are honesty and building trust important to you, and yet sometimes--even though you just don't feel like it--when your friends and family ask you to do something or go somewhere, you agree to their request anyway?
It's not uncommon or "wrong" to want to do what feels good to you. Even if the person asking you is one of the dearest people in your life--not wanting to do exactly what they want or spend time with them doesn't mean you don't love them. And being friend or family doesn't mean you have to agree to a request when it's not what you want to do.
Find out how happier you can be by doing only what feels right to you and still maintain your important relationships. Read on and discover the key to happiness in all your relationships.
December 18, 2008
Do you worry yourself sick over being sick? Do you wish you felt more peaceful instead? If so, you will be glad to learn that you can break yourself of this worrying habit with a little information and a commitment to practice the steps in this article. Whether you are coping with chronic illness, anxiety, or suffering from excessive worrying, you can learn to live more in the moment, relax more often, and stop being so stressed out.
December 08, 2008
Do you feel torn between meeting your own needs and those of your spouse, family members, or friends? When there are conflicting desires in a relationship--especially a marriage, it can be difficult to know how to resolve that conflict without stirring up resentful feelings. This article offers relationship advice on how to get the love and respect you want and still be able to consider everyone's needs.
October 30, 2008
If you feel frustrated, concerned, or challenged when it comes to both setting your goals and achieving results, you are certainly not alone. Especially in our American Dream-driven society, people often feel a pressure to arrive at their goals "ASAP." While this may seem to be a source of anxiety, read on to discover ways to channel such intense desire into positive self-discipline. We will help you to focus on key result areas and maximize your personal effectiveness.
October 27, 2008
Does it seem like you´re always on the losing end of the power struggles in your relationship? Do you give in too easily, and then resent your spouse for what you´ve given up? You might already be aware of this, but built up resentment destroys all hope for a healthy, happy relationship. So, if you see the signs of control issues or a controlling spouse in your relationship, read this article. Discover how you can turn the tide of resentment by building the trust you need to uncover outcomes that everyone will be satisfied with.
October 03, 2008
Are you involved in a relationship that isn't as happy as you had hoped for? Do you ever feel confused or frustrated about how to get the love and respect you desire? If so... you probably feel scared about what the future holds if you stay in this unhappy relationship. Read on to discover essential relationship advice that will gently guide you through the three steps you can take that will create true happiness in your life and in all of your relationships.
September 19, 2008
Has the recent death of your spouse left you feeling lonely, uncertain and insecure about yourself and your place in the world? Maybe you want to start getting out, meet new people and have more fun but don't know where to start. Perhaps you're even hoping that there will come a day for a second chance at love. If any of this sounds familiar… don't worry, there is life after being widowed. In this article we will explore these questions and discuss the best way to meet like-minded people and how to improve your chance of finding love even as a widow.
Healthy, Happy Relationships - You Come First - Steps for Creating All the Love and Respect You Want
August 31, 2008
Are there some relationships in your life that just take more work to maintain than you're enjoying? Do you find yourself wanting to be compassionate and be able to listen in a caring way but it's just not supporting you and the kind of life you want to have? We agree that nurturing love and respect is an all-important task in creating healthy family relationships or any relationships for that matter. But what happens when one party isn´t cooperating? How is it possible to get along and create a healthy relationship when one person refuses to, or for some reason can´t, put forth the effort to cooperate in the process?
August 20, 2008
Are you suffering from poor self esteem due to body image issues? Have fad diets left you feeling confused and frustrated? We'd like you to consider that rather than your challenge being purely a physical one, the difficulty you are having losing weight might also have an undiscovered psychological aspect to it. In this article, you will discover how to renew your relationship with food and gain the clarity you need to start practice healthier, holistic ways to lose weight.
July 15, 2008
In trying to keep up with this world's increasingly fast pace, it's easy to lose sight of what's important. Perhaps you live day-to-day, task-to-task without the balance in your life that keeps what's most important to you in the forefront. How do you live your life productively and also maintain the delicate "yin and yang" between what has to be done and what's fun for you to do? Do you want the kind of time management skills that might actually change your life forever? Read on to discover effective ways you can create a more balanced life.
July 05, 2008
Have you ever wondered what unconditional love actually means, or what it would take to give yourself or someone else this kind of love? We believe everything in your world is a reflection of YOU. And that's the good news! Why? Because if everything starts with you, then you don't have to FIX, CHANGE, or concern yourself with what's out there; all you need to do is understand and focus all your unconditional love internally. This newfound self-love will lead you to a life filled with more self-confidence, peace, and authentic happiness—guaranteed.
June 16, 2008
Do you sit up at night and wonder what it would be like to have the power to achieve everything you want? It´s not uncommon to fantasize about such things and most people believe it´s just that – a fantasy. Most people don´t recognize that their goals and dreams are easily achievable with the right negotiation skills.
May 13, 2008
Do you feel limited by the actions (or inaction) of others? Do you wish you could inspire others to work with you, towards your goals? What if you could break free of those limitations and soar to greater heights, while stirring happiness in others? Regardless of your current level of communication ...
February 21, 2008
Do you get tired of people wanting so much from you? Are you beginning to feel stressed out and irritated trying to keep them all happy? If so, don't worry; there is hope. Changing this uncomfortable pattern is possible when you discover how this pattern got started and learn alternative ways to cre...
February 14, 2008
Aren't those first days, weeks, and months of a new relationship the best? But, then what happened? What happens to those perfect first moments--when the excitement seems as if it will last forever? If you're like so many of us, what you want most is a happy, healthy relationship with a caring lovin...
February 04, 2008
If you sometimes say things you regret and want more happiness and the keys to a satisfying life, learning to escape the bonds of limiting beliefs is a great first step. Start by signing up for our free thought-provoking, motivational Weekly Action Tips eMail series at: http://www.FocusedAttention.com/cmd.php?ad=317928. Each tip offers practical advice for creating and living the life you really want. Or visit us at: http://www.FocusedAttention.com
December 28, 2007
Co Author: Neill Gibson
Have you ever won the "Blame Game"? Does it make you feel good? Do you end up getting what you want, or more of what makes you happy? Continue on and find three steps that will help you reduce stress and increase your happiness--right now.
Until you can identify what i...
December 10, 2007
Co Author: Neill Gibson
Have you ever wanted to be able to motivate the people around you? What if you could be a more meaningful contributor at work by inspiring others and finding a way to coordinate individual priorities and goals with the strategic vision of the organization? Does any of thi...
November 29, 2007
Co Author: Neill Gibson
Do you sometimes feel hurt by the things the people you care about say? Do you find yourself thinking, "What did I do to deserve being talked to that way?" In any relationship, problems can be amplified by the stressful resentment people feel when their feelings have been...
November 09, 2007
Co-authored by Neill Gibson.
Have you ever had an argument with someone and then tried to find the perfect gift to smooth things over? On the flip side, have you ever received a gift from someone who was trying to make up with you? Did it make you want to forgive and forget immediately? While gif...
November 02, 2007
Co-authored by Neill Gibson.
If you have relationships in your life that are not going quite the way you want them to, you've possibly had arguments about what's not working. You might have attempted talking calmly about the problems to see if you could make some changes. You might have even trie...
October 28, 2007
Co-authored by Neill Gibson.
Whether or not we realize it, our relationships dictate the amount of happiness and satisfaction we achieve in life. Now, we're not just talking about romantic relationships, but, rather, all of the relationships we have in our lives. Everyone we interact with plays...
October 19, 2007
Co-authored by Neill Gibson.
You may have heard of a book, written by Robert Fulghum, called, "All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten." While the book is both cleverly written and humorous, there are some serious truths beneath the cute exterior. Some of the things he talks about lea...
October 04, 2007
Co-authored by Neill Gibson.
GOT COMPLAINTS?
Big or little, voiced or silent, major upsets or minor irritations... Have you ever noticed how much time and mental energy you spend complaining? Or how tense and uncomfortable it leaves you feeling? Complain long enough and you can end up feelin...
September 28, 2007
Co-authored by Neill Gibson.
Do you ever open your mouth and say things that you later regret? How about what you say in the heat of anger? Do you often find yourself saying "I'm sorry" for what you've said? If so... you're not alone. In this article we answer the question: "How do I learn to...
September 20, 2007
Co-authored by Neill Gibson.
Ask and it is Given: Learning to Manifest Your Desires, by Esther and Jerry Hicks, is a book about the teachings of Abraham. We love this book in particular, and in general just love any information that allows us to live a happier, more fulfilling life. If you pay at...
September 11, 2007
Co-authored by Neill Gibson.
Are feelings of panic and anxiety consuming your world? One of the primary symptoms of anxiety is feeling uncomfortable and thinking you are trapped or stuck. Being stuck starts by dwelling on things you're worried about instead of taking action. By not taking action,...
August 30, 2007
Co-authored by Neill Gibson.
Do you ever worry that you're not good enough, not smart enough, or you simply don't have what it takes? Do you ever worry that this is keeping you from achieving the things you want most in your life?
According to a recent report by the Priory Group, entitled I'm ...
August 22, 2007
Co-authored by Neill Gibson.
Do you hear the phrases "self-love" or "loving yourself" and wonder what that really means or how to go about doing it? Are there things about yourself that you're not sure you even like, never mind think that you could love? No matter where you are in your life, or w...
August 15, 2007
Co-authored by Neill Gibson.
Do you want to increase profits dramatically? One of the best ways to do this is to focus your attention on your current customer satisfaction and good customer service skills. Profitable businesses don't just rely on attracting new customers, they work at encouraging...
August 10, 2007
Co-authored by Neill Gibson.
Do you find yourself playing the "what if"-"if only"-"I should" game? Does this game leave you feeling tense and nervous or confused about how to get what you want, feel happier and have greater peace of mind? Read on and discover a three-step plan to reduce your stre...
July 27, 2007
Co-authored by Neill Gibson.
Does your whole life seem to be up in the air--even familiar things don't seem the same? Are you confused about what to do now, where to go from here or how to heal a broken heart? Whether or not you instigated the divorce, it may seem as though a tornado has whirled ...
July 19, 2007
Co-authored by Neill Gibson.
Stress relief is a primary concern for most modern-day adults. Even doctors will tell you that finding happiness and letting go of tension is a key ingredient when building a healthy lifestyle. What most people don't realize is that happiness is a choice. You can acti...
July 10, 2007
Co-authored by Neill Gibson.
Do the things you worry about keep you up at night? Do you often feel nervous and uncomfortable? If so, this burden of stress is most likely making your life miserable. Do you want to break free from stress, stop worrying and start being happy? You can end this cycle ...
July 03, 2007
Co-authored by Neill Gibson.
Did you love the movie "The Secret" and have been trying to practice what you learned? Are you experiencing any frustration or confusion about how to effectively manifest your dreams? If so, the tips in this article will help you to make the secret behind the law of a...
June 14, 2007
Co-authored by Neill Gibson.
Are you tired of playing joint-custody tug-of-war with your Ex? Would you rather be paying for your kid's needs than paying your custody attorney? Discover the How-Tos of mutual respect with your Ex and co-operation in your shared parenting plans. Find advice that's m...
June 14, 2007
Co-authored by Neill Gibson.
Why are you just settling for the table scraps from the banquet of life? How would overcoming your fear and throwing off these chains help you live your best life now? Well don't throw in your towel - it can be all down-hill from here. When you learn these three simpl...
June 14, 2007
Co-authored by Neill Gibson.
How do you keep your New Year's resolutions, or any new resolutions? How many of your top 10 New Years Resolutions ever made it into March? New Year's resolutions are the most popular variety people make, and break, but we constantly set new intentions for our lives. ...
June 14, 2007
Co-authored by Neill Gibson.
Do you ever find yourself wishing more people would take those anger management and anger control classes? Do you get tired of dealing with angry people, or wind up being angry yourself? You may be missing the upside of anger: how to use their anger to help you to cre...
June 14, 2007
Co-authored by Neill Gibson.
Have you ever taken the "Who's Right, Who's Wrong" relationship quiz? Ever give this test to someone else? It never seems like much fun for anyone, does it? How would you like stop playing either side of the blame game, once and for all? Here you'll find five practica...
June 14, 2007
Co-authored by Neill Gibson.
Seems there's always another holiday gathering or family reunion right around the corner. But do you ever leave wondering why you went? Are some of your in-laws and extended family members a little hard to deal with? It can be different. How would you like to walk in ...
June 14, 2007
Co-authored by Neill Gibson.
End your "pursuit of happiness" by discovering the art of "having happiness now." Has it ever seemed to you that: relationships are free but happiness is sold separately? Learn why authentic happiness is a choice you can start making today, and discover how to start f...
June 14, 2007
Co-authored by Neill Gibson.
Do you avoid face-to-face conflicts and confrontation? Would you love to create more cooperation and respect in these crucial situations? Read on to discover more than simple conflict management skills. The authors reveal secrets that can replace your stress and tensi...
April 12, 2007
Co Author, Neill Gibson
What's missing with "anger management," "anger control," and "dealing with anger?" Why not use these anger management techniques if you're angry? They miss the upside of anger: how to use your anger to create the life you truly want. No, is not about becoming that "angry m...
April 12, 2007
Co Author: Neill Gibson
Is inflicting annual performance evaluations on your employees or direct reports part of your job description? Would you like to wake-up from this recurring workforce management nightmare? Read on to discover the secret to giving performance reviews your employees will lov...