Would You Rather Be Abused or Alone?
Judy Ramsook
May 13, 2006
If people who have been in abusive relationships or have had a history of dating people who are not right for them, then those individuals would like nothing better than to forget those persons who have caused them so much hurt.
Sad to say, but one of the realities of living is, unless we come down with a serious case of amnesia, no one we have had close relations with can be totally forgotten. One can move on with his or her life the best he can, but the memory of that person he or she dated a year or five years ago and or before will linger on somewhere in his or her memory bank.
Maybe they are there for a reason. That reason those persons or the things they have done linger on in one’s memory serve a purpose. Maybe that purpose is a reminder to us not to repeat the same mistake over and over.
Some things cannot be helped, granted, but it is not totally impossible to steer one away from a relationship that will leave him or her feeling abused and even neglected.
Desperation can make people do strange things at times, such as dating or becoming involved with the wrong person.
If, for example all of one’s friends has a companion and you want one too so you won’t feel left out, you might be tempted to fall for the next available person you meet. Whether that person is pleasant or not, you are thinking it’s better than being alone, right?
Maybe for some, but what if everytime that person you chose to be your coampanion opens his or her mouth to say something to you, instead of a compliment, you hear something else.
Something that will sound as if some one has just insulted or belittled you in some way or the other.
Will you still want to be with that person because it is far better than being alone again for a while? Sad to say this too, but yes, there are some individuals who would rather be miserable and abused than be alone and abuse free.
On the other hand, no one deserves to be abused. If you find yourself in the early part of a relationship you think is heading in that direction, it is never too late to end it and move along for something better.
Your self esteem will thank you, and so will your memory bank that will now be filled with cheerful memories with that new and better person as opposed to abusive ones from the last relationship. It’s your choice, choose and observe wisely the next person you date.
Sad to say, but one of the realities of living is, unless we come down with a serious case of amnesia, no one we have had close relations with can be totally forgotten. One can move on with his or her life the best he can, but the memory of that person he or she dated a year or five years ago and or before will linger on somewhere in his or her memory bank.
Maybe they are there for a reason. That reason those persons or the things they have done linger on in one’s memory serve a purpose. Maybe that purpose is a reminder to us not to repeat the same mistake over and over.
Some things cannot be helped, granted, but it is not totally impossible to steer one away from a relationship that will leave him or her feeling abused and even neglected.
Desperation can make people do strange things at times, such as dating or becoming involved with the wrong person.
If, for example all of one’s friends has a companion and you want one too so you won’t feel left out, you might be tempted to fall for the next available person you meet. Whether that person is pleasant or not, you are thinking it’s better than being alone, right?
Maybe for some, but what if everytime that person you chose to be your coampanion opens his or her mouth to say something to you, instead of a compliment, you hear something else.
Something that will sound as if some one has just insulted or belittled you in some way or the other.
Will you still want to be with that person because it is far better than being alone again for a while? Sad to say this too, but yes, there are some individuals who would rather be miserable and abused than be alone and abuse free.
On the other hand, no one deserves to be abused. If you find yourself in the early part of a relationship you think is heading in that direction, it is never too late to end it and move along for something better.
Your self esteem will thank you, and so will your memory bank that will now be filled with cheerful memories with that new and better person as opposed to abusive ones from the last relationship. It’s your choice, choose and observe wisely the next person you date.
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