ADVICE FROM A MAN TO WOMEN ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS...WILL YOU READ IT?
Domingo Ivan Casaņas
May 09, 2006
Hello there, I know I have not been certified in any way to give advice, I can only talk from people experiences and from observation. First let?s get something clear here, even though it is politically incorrect to point out differences between men and women, I know for a fact that men and women are different in many ways especially the way they think about love and the meaning behind it. Women will tend to experience deep love with passion and commitment something that most man are not able to do. The sad part is when the woman is in this state they tend to overlook the so many faults that their mate has. They actually look the other way, or they just get use to it. In other words they settle, to the point that things are not going to change, so why try to change it.
There are woman that get involved in cohabitation relationships (See my past article on this subject). Some get involved thinking that marriage will be the next step. Others get involved with those so called ?bad boys?, guys that treat them terribly, or maybe he is a ?player?, he might just be very controlling, or at times violent. Yet, when a woman has found that deep love they will tend to simply settle for this bad and possibly dangerous behavior. At times it might be the cash flow that the abusive partner brings in, maybe it is the woman with such low self-esteem that they just feel trapped and prefers to settle. Sometimes women will settle for someone who abuses them emotionally, verbally, and even physically, yet they stay in the relationship because they cannot break free because of the deep love they have for this MONSTER or they are just simply scared to leave. Sometimes women will actually justify the behavior of their partner by saying that their mate ?had an abusive or difficult childhood?. Do you know some of these women? Can it be you? Well here is my advice for this women, you must demand a STOP at once and you have to be strong enough to NEXT them. Yes! You must dump them or leave yourself. Got it? If you don?t do this, then you will just live a miserable life because you have settled due to the fact that you lack the confidence and have such a poor self image of yourself that you have no other choice but to settle. So women, WAKE UP! Don?t settle! No matter how deep your love for this MONSTER is, he is only using you as a sex object or just to have the power of control and/or abuse. This is why you MUST act and get out! No if?s or buts?JUST DO IT! Then you can send me an email thanking me.
Now for the young ladies out there here is my advice. Stop making excuses for your mate, don?t excuse his abusiveness, don?t blame it on others or his childhood, and please don?t explain to me or to others the difference you are going to make in his life. I will laugh in your face if you try to tell me about the difference you are or will make in his life?.this is a FANTASY. Any woman that thinks this way and is always giving excuses lacks maturity and what you really need is to work on your confidence and your poor self image. Stop for a minute and recognize for yourself that you have fallen prey to a bad boy and your love for him will never change who he is. Do not allow your love to overwhelm your better sense and your real gut feelings about the situation you are in. It is time to act?run, get away, don?t worry about him, he will find another victim. If you feel trapped in the relationship because he says he will kill himself or you if you leave?leave anyways. Talk is cheap when it comes to these cowards, get help and get out! Got it?
Ladies don?t ignore your inner voice that is telling you that all this is wrong; don?t dismiss that feeling deep down that is telling you to leave, to run, to get away. Trust your instincts instead of giving the jerk another chance. Believe that you deserve better, that you are a beautiful person that can live life with joy and that you do deserve happiness. With your smile, your eyes and your love for yourself you will attract the real love you seek. Praying and asking God to give you the strength to walk away from your bad relationship will do wonders in getting you a new start. Keep smiling and walk with your head high. You deserve the best so stop settling for a beast. God loves you and He is ready to answer your prayers, but remember you need to do your part to. Have a Blessed day, week, month and year.
Domingo Ivan Casa?/p>
There are woman that get involved in cohabitation relationships (See my past article on this subject). Some get involved thinking that marriage will be the next step. Others get involved with those so called ?bad boys?, guys that treat them terribly, or maybe he is a ?player?, he might just be very controlling, or at times violent. Yet, when a woman has found that deep love they will tend to simply settle for this bad and possibly dangerous behavior. At times it might be the cash flow that the abusive partner brings in, maybe it is the woman with such low self-esteem that they just feel trapped and prefers to settle. Sometimes women will settle for someone who abuses them emotionally, verbally, and even physically, yet they stay in the relationship because they cannot break free because of the deep love they have for this MONSTER or they are just simply scared to leave. Sometimes women will actually justify the behavior of their partner by saying that their mate ?had an abusive or difficult childhood?. Do you know some of these women? Can it be you? Well here is my advice for this women, you must demand a STOP at once and you have to be strong enough to NEXT them. Yes! You must dump them or leave yourself. Got it? If you don?t do this, then you will just live a miserable life because you have settled due to the fact that you lack the confidence and have such a poor self image of yourself that you have no other choice but to settle. So women, WAKE UP! Don?t settle! No matter how deep your love for this MONSTER is, he is only using you as a sex object or just to have the power of control and/or abuse. This is why you MUST act and get out! No if?s or buts?JUST DO IT! Then you can send me an email thanking me.
Now for the young ladies out there here is my advice. Stop making excuses for your mate, don?t excuse his abusiveness, don?t blame it on others or his childhood, and please don?t explain to me or to others the difference you are going to make in his life. I will laugh in your face if you try to tell me about the difference you are or will make in his life?.this is a FANTASY. Any woman that thinks this way and is always giving excuses lacks maturity and what you really need is to work on your confidence and your poor self image. Stop for a minute and recognize for yourself that you have fallen prey to a bad boy and your love for him will never change who he is. Do not allow your love to overwhelm your better sense and your real gut feelings about the situation you are in. It is time to act?run, get away, don?t worry about him, he will find another victim. If you feel trapped in the relationship because he says he will kill himself or you if you leave?leave anyways. Talk is cheap when it comes to these cowards, get help and get out! Got it?
Ladies don?t ignore your inner voice that is telling you that all this is wrong; don?t dismiss that feeling deep down that is telling you to leave, to run, to get away. Trust your instincts instead of giving the jerk another chance. Believe that you deserve better, that you are a beautiful person that can live life with joy and that you do deserve happiness. With your smile, your eyes and your love for yourself you will attract the real love you seek. Praying and asking God to give you the strength to walk away from your bad relationship will do wonders in getting you a new start. Keep smiling and walk with your head high. You deserve the best so stop settling for a beast. God loves you and He is ready to answer your prayers, but remember you need to do your part to. Have a Blessed day, week, month and year.
Domingo Ivan Casa?/p>
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