MARRIAGE ...WEDDINGS....MORE THAN A SHOW
Domingo Ivan Casaņas
April 12, 2006
One of the biggest problems that I see in having a wedding is that too many people are going in it to put on the best show, spending the most money just to give others a good show. What is sad about this is that they forget that marriage is a commitment not a show. Plus in many cases they start out on a negative financial note because of all the expenses that they incurred.
If you ask any wedding planner they will confirm that they do their best to make sure your wedding IS a show. They don?t see it as crass or insensitive, because it becomes a show to impress the women, the family and gives many parents bragging rights about what a show they just put on.
It seems, more and more people that are planning a wedding will be more concern about the weather for that special day, whether the most important people have scheduled commitments for that day that they cannot change. Whether some huge event in town may interfere with traffic patterns around your wedding location or reception. They also are concern with a Holiday close to the wedding date that might make air travel or transportation problematic as far as having people in town on time.
The next area of concern for the couple is to make sure all vendors, bands, DJ, florist, caterers, bakery and photographer & or video person have their contracts and are confirmed for the big event. But there is more, they are usually very concern with the cuteness factor in using children, usually relatives in the ceremony. Who will read a poem, or who will read a Bible scripture.
The wedding planner will also encourage you to use patience, plan, write it down, get specific details, divide work into teams, give yourself months and months to organize, and enjoy the planning process itself while always double checking for all contingencies and possible snags and emergencies from the bachelor party or even a bachelorette party to the honeymoon planning.
Based on everything I just wrote, what is the key ingredient that has been left out to have a Blessed marriage? The answer is simple, GOD. With divorce rates at an all time high, couples shoud put more emphasis on God than the so called show that they are putting on for friends and family. We must encourage those that are planning a wedding to put GOD back in the picture, and focus on what the wedding is truly about: Commitment.
A good start is for the couple to attend an Engaged Encounter. This encounter is a weekend experienced designed to help couples prepare personally and as a couple for marriage. The focus is on the marriage, not on the wedding. We must remember that a wedding is a day while a marriage is a lifetime. The Engaged Encounter will show couples communication and decision-making techniques they can use throughout their lifetime together. This Encounter is specifically designed for quiet reflection and discussion by each couple. It is a positive, simple, common sense approach between two people who are either seriously considering engagement, engaged, or recently married.
A good marriage is not about the show at the wedding, but about keeping GOD FIRST!
A good marriage is about praying together, respecting and honoring each other. Encouraging each other to grow together. A good marriage is successful because God is in the house and in your heart. Reading the Bible together and being swift to hear and slow to speak will also be a positive. Communication with each other and protecting and honoring your marriage vows are also important. We must also remember that ?love? is a choice, not a feeling, (feelings tend to come and go). You must choose everyday to love your mate.
When we can bring God into the picture and keep Him in it, then you will have the best wedding and the best years together as a married couple. May God Bless You All.
Domingo Ivan Casa?/p>
If you ask any wedding planner they will confirm that they do their best to make sure your wedding IS a show. They don?t see it as crass or insensitive, because it becomes a show to impress the women, the family and gives many parents bragging rights about what a show they just put on.
It seems, more and more people that are planning a wedding will be more concern about the weather for that special day, whether the most important people have scheduled commitments for that day that they cannot change. Whether some huge event in town may interfere with traffic patterns around your wedding location or reception. They also are concern with a Holiday close to the wedding date that might make air travel or transportation problematic as far as having people in town on time.
The next area of concern for the couple is to make sure all vendors, bands, DJ, florist, caterers, bakery and photographer & or video person have their contracts and are confirmed for the big event. But there is more, they are usually very concern with the cuteness factor in using children, usually relatives in the ceremony. Who will read a poem, or who will read a Bible scripture.
The wedding planner will also encourage you to use patience, plan, write it down, get specific details, divide work into teams, give yourself months and months to organize, and enjoy the planning process itself while always double checking for all contingencies and possible snags and emergencies from the bachelor party or even a bachelorette party to the honeymoon planning.
Based on everything I just wrote, what is the key ingredient that has been left out to have a Blessed marriage? The answer is simple, GOD. With divorce rates at an all time high, couples shoud put more emphasis on God than the so called show that they are putting on for friends and family. We must encourage those that are planning a wedding to put GOD back in the picture, and focus on what the wedding is truly about: Commitment.
A good start is for the couple to attend an Engaged Encounter. This encounter is a weekend experienced designed to help couples prepare personally and as a couple for marriage. The focus is on the marriage, not on the wedding. We must remember that a wedding is a day while a marriage is a lifetime. The Engaged Encounter will show couples communication and decision-making techniques they can use throughout their lifetime together. This Encounter is specifically designed for quiet reflection and discussion by each couple. It is a positive, simple, common sense approach between two people who are either seriously considering engagement, engaged, or recently married.
A good marriage is not about the show at the wedding, but about keeping GOD FIRST!
A good marriage is about praying together, respecting and honoring each other. Encouraging each other to grow together. A good marriage is successful because God is in the house and in your heart. Reading the Bible together and being swift to hear and slow to speak will also be a positive. Communication with each other and protecting and honoring your marriage vows are also important. We must also remember that ?love? is a choice, not a feeling, (feelings tend to come and go). You must choose everyday to love your mate.
When we can bring God into the picture and keep Him in it, then you will have the best wedding and the best years together as a married couple. May God Bless You All.
Domingo Ivan Casa?/p>
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