Have You Ever Been Stood Up?
Judy Ramsook
April 04, 2006
Some social engagements or dates can be enjoyable experiences. This is especially so if the two persons involved in the social outing like each other or even so if one assumes that the one he or she is going out with likes him or her.
What happens though when one is ready and waiting for his or her date for what he/she anticipates will be an exciting evening, does not make an appearance. Worse, in this day of a wide range of communication devices from which to choose, this individual does not even have the courtesy to send you, the person who is waiting, an email, instant message, text message or telephone call for that matter.
This situation might be easier to cope with if one is a financially independent adult who lives away from his or her family and friends. If, on the other hand, one is still living at home and is sitting or impatiently pacing the floor in the midst of his or her family members, the situation can be quite embarrassing.
As the clock ticks away and the loved ones around you observe that you are still there, some one might ask you certain questions and since you are hopeful that your date will show up, you choose a defensive response.
That relative might ask something such as what time did you both agree to meet, or whether or not he or she has called to inform you he or she is running a bit on the late side.
So the time he or she told you he would be at your place has come and gone, but there is the embarrassing matter of the other question.
Has he or she called to indicate he would be late? No, or not yet should one decide to keep things on the positive side. While you are waiting though, something else dawns on you. Why do some people stand up others?
Did you, the person who is being stood up hurt this other individual earlier on in life and has no recollection at all of such an event? He or she seemed so pleasant and courteous when you two met a few days prior to this occasion. Or at least he or she left you with the impression that he or she liked you.
Then as the night further winds down, the voice of one of your parents speaks. It is more than two hours past the person’s designated time of arrival and with not so much as a telephone call from the no show, that parent says, well you can call it an evening that person is definitely not going to show up again, not this evening.
The words might sting at first, for the only person who might want to be stood up is the one who has regretted saying yes to a date when he or she meant to say no.
Even so, what happens now? How long will it be before you can trust some one again to say yes to when another dating opportunity arrives? Will you be more cautious next time around? Will you make certain that other person likes you enough to show up? How will you know for sure?
People who do not want to be stood up should not stand up others. It is discourteous, embarrassing and a precious waste of time for the person who is sitting at home waiting for the date who knows he or she is not going to show up.
What happens though when one is ready and waiting for his or her date for what he/she anticipates will be an exciting evening, does not make an appearance. Worse, in this day of a wide range of communication devices from which to choose, this individual does not even have the courtesy to send you, the person who is waiting, an email, instant message, text message or telephone call for that matter.
This situation might be easier to cope with if one is a financially independent adult who lives away from his or her family and friends. If, on the other hand, one is still living at home and is sitting or impatiently pacing the floor in the midst of his or her family members, the situation can be quite embarrassing.
As the clock ticks away and the loved ones around you observe that you are still there, some one might ask you certain questions and since you are hopeful that your date will show up, you choose a defensive response.
That relative might ask something such as what time did you both agree to meet, or whether or not he or she has called to inform you he or she is running a bit on the late side.
So the time he or she told you he would be at your place has come and gone, but there is the embarrassing matter of the other question.
Has he or she called to indicate he would be late? No, or not yet should one decide to keep things on the positive side. While you are waiting though, something else dawns on you. Why do some people stand up others?
Did you, the person who is being stood up hurt this other individual earlier on in life and has no recollection at all of such an event? He or she seemed so pleasant and courteous when you two met a few days prior to this occasion. Or at least he or she left you with the impression that he or she liked you.
Then as the night further winds down, the voice of one of your parents speaks. It is more than two hours past the person’s designated time of arrival and with not so much as a telephone call from the no show, that parent says, well you can call it an evening that person is definitely not going to show up again, not this evening.
The words might sting at first, for the only person who might want to be stood up is the one who has regretted saying yes to a date when he or she meant to say no.
Even so, what happens now? How long will it be before you can trust some one again to say yes to when another dating opportunity arrives? Will you be more cautious next time around? Will you make certain that other person likes you enough to show up? How will you know for sure?
People who do not want to be stood up should not stand up others. It is discourteous, embarrassing and a precious waste of time for the person who is sitting at home waiting for the date who knows he or she is not going to show up.
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