Uneasy Feelings About Your Relationship? - Seven Break Up Signs
Marc Sandford
August 25, 2008
Before a storm hits, a disaster strikes, or something that's just plain bad happens, there will always be warning signs. It's very common to hear people say: "we should have heeded the warning signs". This is true of storms, political events, bridge collapses, and of breakups between couples.
Be warned, if you're a paranoid individual, please skip this article. Please note that the points discussed here refer to changes in your partners behavior that was absent in the past. Also, the more signs that are true for your relationship the more likely a breakup is imminent.
1.) Does your partner constantly make ultimatums about leaving if you fail to meet her conditions? When she's at this stage it means that she's been premeditating on this for some time now. If this keeps up, a break up is in the cards.
Threats and ultimatums are sometimes employed to manipulate ones partner. This strategy exploits your insecurities and fears and make you feel uncomfortable. Again this is not a healthy state for a couple to be in.
2.) Any changes recently in the nature or frequency of affection toward you? Does she avert her head when you're about to kiss her? This kind of change is a very serious indication of something very wrong.
Maybe she's still kissing you but the passion is gone. This could be plain old everyday boredom, but it could also be an aversion to expressing love with you - a much more serious problem.
3.) Does it feel as though your partner is trying to avoid you? This sort of conduct has many guises but they all amount to her always being elsewhere and being impossible to reach. A partner that is inaccessible is a clear danger signal that a break up very likely.
Avoidance behavior most often occurs through the communication medium of phones. Do you find that no one ever answers when you call or maybe she never answers your voice mail? Are you finding that you are generally seeing less of her because she can't be found?
4.) Has she started to deal with you in a manner that's full of contempt? This is a real warning sign that her attitude about you and the relationship has gone downhill. You need to do something about this immediately. Otherwise, one of you will have had enough and a break up will be the next step.
5.) Is your partner coming across as distracted, distant, somewhere else? She will be unusually quiet and will not volunteer much if at all to the conversation. This is fairly common behavior but when considered in addition to other signs of a breakup, it has significance.
6.) Has your partner come to be unusually secretive? Not telling you where she's going or quickly ending phone calls when you go into the same room? This is very strange and you've got to ask yourself why?
7.) Does she neglect to volunteer details about where she is going or the name of her friend? Sometimes this won't have any significance. But if she won't give an answer when you ask her, then something is wrong.
As was mentioned at the beginning, you must be careful not to latch on to one sign and assume immediately that a break up is around the corner. These tips should be used when you already have a strong feeling in your gut that something has changed in your relationship. Something that is very wrong. Need more information about dealing with break ups? Visit http://howtogetyourgirlback.org.
Be warned, if you're a paranoid individual, please skip this article. Please note that the points discussed here refer to changes in your partners behavior that was absent in the past. Also, the more signs that are true for your relationship the more likely a breakup is imminent.
1.) Does your partner constantly make ultimatums about leaving if you fail to meet her conditions? When she's at this stage it means that she's been premeditating on this for some time now. If this keeps up, a break up is in the cards.
Threats and ultimatums are sometimes employed to manipulate ones partner. This strategy exploits your insecurities and fears and make you feel uncomfortable. Again this is not a healthy state for a couple to be in.
2.) Any changes recently in the nature or frequency of affection toward you? Does she avert her head when you're about to kiss her? This kind of change is a very serious indication of something very wrong.
Maybe she's still kissing you but the passion is gone. This could be plain old everyday boredom, but it could also be an aversion to expressing love with you - a much more serious problem.
3.) Does it feel as though your partner is trying to avoid you? This sort of conduct has many guises but they all amount to her always being elsewhere and being impossible to reach. A partner that is inaccessible is a clear danger signal that a break up very likely.
Avoidance behavior most often occurs through the communication medium of phones. Do you find that no one ever answers when you call or maybe she never answers your voice mail? Are you finding that you are generally seeing less of her because she can't be found?
4.) Has she started to deal with you in a manner that's full of contempt? This is a real warning sign that her attitude about you and the relationship has gone downhill. You need to do something about this immediately. Otherwise, one of you will have had enough and a break up will be the next step.
5.) Is your partner coming across as distracted, distant, somewhere else? She will be unusually quiet and will not volunteer much if at all to the conversation. This is fairly common behavior but when considered in addition to other signs of a breakup, it has significance.
6.) Has your partner come to be unusually secretive? Not telling you where she's going or quickly ending phone calls when you go into the same room? This is very strange and you've got to ask yourself why?
7.) Does she neglect to volunteer details about where she is going or the name of her friend? Sometimes this won't have any significance. But if she won't give an answer when you ask her, then something is wrong.
As was mentioned at the beginning, you must be careful not to latch on to one sign and assume immediately that a break up is around the corner. These tips should be used when you already have a strong feeling in your gut that something has changed in your relationship. Something that is very wrong. Need more information about dealing with break ups? Visit http://howtogetyourgirlback.org.
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