Falling In Love Or Giving Up Your Freedom
Judy Ramsook
March 23, 2006
People the world over fall in love everyday. Some persons say there is nothing like it, for being in love makes one feel most alive as he or she shares bits and intimate pieces of him or herself with some one else and vice versa.
If on the other hand, some one has grown accustomed to the way he or she lives his life with his little routine in place and does happen to fall head over whatever in love with another individual, would he suddenly feel as if he is making little sacrifices to be with that new person in his life?
It could be nothing much, say before falling in love, this one person looked forward to going home at the end of the day to watch that new episode of Law and Order.
Something he might now have to record on the Tivo, other digital recording device or VCR for that matter. Things might not feel quite the same, for now he will have to set aside some time to watch this recorded episode of the show.
Or what if such an individual became accustomed to spending time with his other single friends and other things he might not be able to do now that all his free time is taken up with that new romantic interest in his life.
Would he suddenly feel as if being in love with some one is a bigger sacrifice than he ever imagined it to be?
It can be to some people. For once a person has decided to give up certain little pleasures to be with that special some one, he is, in a way, also giving up some of his freedom.
Something that can make one feel as if his entire life is changing right before his eyes as he no longer has time for the things he spent time on prior to falling in love.
What’s a person in this type of situation to do? Since this is a personal matter, it depends. If he is happy being and spending time with that new person in his life and their compatibility rating is high, they can probably find a way to share their freedom together.
If, on the other hand, both individuals in the new relationship are not as compatible, one of those individuals might feel as if his or her little sacrifices are not worth it.
He or she may not be as contented as he or she could be because he is mostly doing things the other person enjoys. That is why communication is so important.
No matter how many times a person does this in his or her lifetime, falling in love with some one new will always feel great, but what is also important during this time are those little conversations one has with the other during the course of the beginning stages.
For it is through communication one learns how compatible he is with the other, and the more compatible one is with the other, the better.
Knowing that you enjoy doing the things the other person does might not make one feel as if he is giving up most of his freedom. Since both parties are quite compatible, he will be sharing the things he enjoys with that new person in his life.
As far as that keeps happening, the person in the relationship will be contented.
For as long as both persons enjoy the same things, the commitment phase of the relationship won’t feel as if it is such a strain because in all reality, no one wants to give up most of his or her freedom. Communication and compatibility are essential.
If on the other hand, some one has grown accustomed to the way he or she lives his life with his little routine in place and does happen to fall head over whatever in love with another individual, would he suddenly feel as if he is making little sacrifices to be with that new person in his life?
It could be nothing much, say before falling in love, this one person looked forward to going home at the end of the day to watch that new episode of Law and Order.
Something he might now have to record on the Tivo, other digital recording device or VCR for that matter. Things might not feel quite the same, for now he will have to set aside some time to watch this recorded episode of the show.
Or what if such an individual became accustomed to spending time with his other single friends and other things he might not be able to do now that all his free time is taken up with that new romantic interest in his life.
Would he suddenly feel as if being in love with some one is a bigger sacrifice than he ever imagined it to be?
It can be to some people. For once a person has decided to give up certain little pleasures to be with that special some one, he is, in a way, also giving up some of his freedom.
Something that can make one feel as if his entire life is changing right before his eyes as he no longer has time for the things he spent time on prior to falling in love.
What’s a person in this type of situation to do? Since this is a personal matter, it depends. If he is happy being and spending time with that new person in his life and their compatibility rating is high, they can probably find a way to share their freedom together.
If, on the other hand, both individuals in the new relationship are not as compatible, one of those individuals might feel as if his or her little sacrifices are not worth it.
He or she may not be as contented as he or she could be because he is mostly doing things the other person enjoys. That is why communication is so important.
No matter how many times a person does this in his or her lifetime, falling in love with some one new will always feel great, but what is also important during this time are those little conversations one has with the other during the course of the beginning stages.
For it is through communication one learns how compatible he is with the other, and the more compatible one is with the other, the better.
Knowing that you enjoy doing the things the other person does might not make one feel as if he is giving up most of his freedom. Since both parties are quite compatible, he will be sharing the things he enjoys with that new person in his life.
As far as that keeps happening, the person in the relationship will be contented.
For as long as both persons enjoy the same things, the commitment phase of the relationship won’t feel as if it is such a strain because in all reality, no one wants to give up most of his or her freedom. Communication and compatibility are essential.
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