She Loves Me...She Loves Me Not - 6 Unmistakable Signs Your Ex Still Loves You
Marc Sandford
July 27, 2008
If you're having second thoughts about the wisdom of a recent breakup with your ex, you may be wondering if the damage can be reversed. Given the differences in perception between the sexes, how can you know if your ex feels the same way that you do about the breakup? Is she also feeling regret about it as well?
You could go with your gut instinct on this, but if you're like a lot of men, acute sensitivity and empathy aren't your strong points. If you understood your ex at a very deep level, the breakup might not have happened in the first place.
No, the best way for a guy to know if his ex still loves him is to look for external evidence of it. In other words, you have to look out for signals that indicate an interest in wanting to get back together with you.
To start with, she shouldn't be showing extreme antagonism towards you or all-out, frigid indifference (which is pent up anger). Indifference isn't always a bad thing. Sometimes it only indicates confusion or uncertainty about her feelings towards you. Nervousness or awkward behavior in your presence is a tell-tale sign of this. With some effort on your part, you might get her interested in resuming the relationship with you.
Here's how to tell if your ex still loves you:
1.) She's always 'bumping into you' on a regular basis. If she were completely turned off by you, she would be avoiding you like the plague. Instead, she's trying to create opportunity for the two of you to talk things over. This is a strategy often used by men when they're interested in getting to know a woman for the first time. The difference here is that she is using the strategy on you.
2.) The conversations during these 'chance' meetings are always calm and pleasant. They tend to be lengthy and she's always discussing her feelings about how things might have been better. She alludes to a future that has you in it. This indicates that she's trying to set the stage for reconciliation. Also, frequent laughter is an extremely good sign.
3) She's always sneaking glances your way or her eye contact is prolonged. She 'accidentally' touches you or brushes up against you. These are the classic mating ritual signs, in other words, flirtation.
4) She's been asking your friends and relatives about how you're coping with the breakup and whether you've found someone else. This indicates great interest and possibly even an insecurity about losing you.
5) There is a sudden change for the better in her appearance or her behavior when she's with you. This is an effort at self improvement on her part, to be more attractive to you.
6) She's still holding on to your cards, gifts and mementos. If she truly wanted you out of her life for good, she would have tossed out any sort of reminder of you.
7) A general rule of thumb is, imagine yourself doing the same things to her that she's doing to you. This should give you a fair indication of her intent. However, exercise some caution here, because wishful thinking on your part can distort your interpretation of her actions.
If some or all of the above points apply to you, then the ball is in your court and it's up to you to do something about it. So, what exactly will you do? This is explained further here with a strategy about getting your girl back.
You could go with your gut instinct on this, but if you're like a lot of men, acute sensitivity and empathy aren't your strong points. If you understood your ex at a very deep level, the breakup might not have happened in the first place.
No, the best way for a guy to know if his ex still loves him is to look for external evidence of it. In other words, you have to look out for signals that indicate an interest in wanting to get back together with you.
To start with, she shouldn't be showing extreme antagonism towards you or all-out, frigid indifference (which is pent up anger). Indifference isn't always a bad thing. Sometimes it only indicates confusion or uncertainty about her feelings towards you. Nervousness or awkward behavior in your presence is a tell-tale sign of this. With some effort on your part, you might get her interested in resuming the relationship with you.
Here's how to tell if your ex still loves you:
1.) She's always 'bumping into you' on a regular basis. If she were completely turned off by you, she would be avoiding you like the plague. Instead, she's trying to create opportunity for the two of you to talk things over. This is a strategy often used by men when they're interested in getting to know a woman for the first time. The difference here is that she is using the strategy on you.
2.) The conversations during these 'chance' meetings are always calm and pleasant. They tend to be lengthy and she's always discussing her feelings about how things might have been better. She alludes to a future that has you in it. This indicates that she's trying to set the stage for reconciliation. Also, frequent laughter is an extremely good sign.
3) She's always sneaking glances your way or her eye contact is prolonged. She 'accidentally' touches you or brushes up against you. These are the classic mating ritual signs, in other words, flirtation.
4) She's been asking your friends and relatives about how you're coping with the breakup and whether you've found someone else. This indicates great interest and possibly even an insecurity about losing you.
5) There is a sudden change for the better in her appearance or her behavior when she's with you. This is an effort at self improvement on her part, to be more attractive to you.
6) She's still holding on to your cards, gifts and mementos. If she truly wanted you out of her life for good, she would have tossed out any sort of reminder of you.
7) A general rule of thumb is, imagine yourself doing the same things to her that she's doing to you. This should give you a fair indication of her intent. However, exercise some caution here, because wishful thinking on your part can distort your interpretation of her actions.
If some or all of the above points apply to you, then the ball is in your court and it's up to you to do something about it. So, what exactly will you do? This is explained further here with a strategy about getting your girl back.
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