Searching for the dream: Page 3
Bhumika Ghimire
February 27, 2006
Good stories
Hiding inside my shell, I taught myself to believe in destiny, I used to tell myself that I am destinated to be someone great someday.Even when I had to face D grades and nearly failed in ninth grade, my heart used to remind me of the bigger things that will happen in my life. That belief kept me going.When I secured over 60% marks in 10 grade finals, I was the happiest person in the world. I thought finally I have seen that whatever I believed in were indeed true, there is somehting better for me.
Like all good stories, this story had to end, and it did within a week. My parents wanted me to study science but with only 60% marks no college would admit me. Every day I would go to different colleges and fill out the application form, sit for qualifying exams but nothing. I was rejected every where.In some places they would not even allow me to sit for qualifying exams because my marke in 10 grade were so low. For first few days I kept myself together, hoping that some college will be there in Kathmandu which will admit me, but my hope faded as days went by filled with rejection. Finally, I decided that I will not study science and seek admission in management stream so that it would be easy for me to get admission.
Same day one of my friend who was also facing the same situation of low marks and high dreams called me. She was planning on going to India and studying science,she had found a college which would admit her to study science. She asked me if I want to do the same. For a second I thought the idea is too far fetched.Going to India to study when no one in your country wants you in their college.Still, I told my parents about this and they agreed, they said yes to me going to India to study. But they had some conditions, like meet her parents before I am allowed to make the journey, and yes talk with the people at the college so that they can be sure that things are going to be ok.
In a sceond things started looking better for me. I will be first daughter from my family to venture out of the country on my own at 16!!It was exciting. It actually gave me a sense of achievement. It was hard for some digest the fact that my parents are sending their unmarried, 16 year old daugther to a far away place to study. For a male dominated society like ours it was something dramatic, something you won't do unless you had followd the same path .Both parents were educated in Nepal, they were the first ones in their family to go to college, in fact my mom is the only daugher in here family who has a college degree.Cousins and relatives, who would normally stay away from us because were not up to their standard, starting giving suggestions to my parents that they were making a mistake.Ya right!! a mistake!! because for them it was hard to digest the fact that we were doing something which they had not dared doing.They had sent their sons away to USA, Britain for higher education and kept their daughters are home. For the sake of preserving family honour.They had allowed all previliges to their sons, and taught the daughters that they don't need qality education like their brothers because their only role in life is going to be that of a house wife and mother.They were afriad that they were no longer the leaders, that position had now some to us.
Continued....
(fictional account, any resemblance to a real person is coincidence)
Copyright: Bhumika Ghimire,2006.
Hiding inside my shell, I taught myself to believe in destiny, I used to tell myself that I am destinated to be someone great someday.Even when I had to face D grades and nearly failed in ninth grade, my heart used to remind me of the bigger things that will happen in my life. That belief kept me going.When I secured over 60% marks in 10 grade finals, I was the happiest person in the world. I thought finally I have seen that whatever I believed in were indeed true, there is somehting better for me.
Like all good stories, this story had to end, and it did within a week. My parents wanted me to study science but with only 60% marks no college would admit me. Every day I would go to different colleges and fill out the application form, sit for qualifying exams but nothing. I was rejected every where.In some places they would not even allow me to sit for qualifying exams because my marke in 10 grade were so low. For first few days I kept myself together, hoping that some college will be there in Kathmandu which will admit me, but my hope faded as days went by filled with rejection. Finally, I decided that I will not study science and seek admission in management stream so that it would be easy for me to get admission.
Same day one of my friend who was also facing the same situation of low marks and high dreams called me. She was planning on going to India and studying science,she had found a college which would admit her to study science. She asked me if I want to do the same. For a second I thought the idea is too far fetched.Going to India to study when no one in your country wants you in their college.Still, I told my parents about this and they agreed, they said yes to me going to India to study. But they had some conditions, like meet her parents before I am allowed to make the journey, and yes talk with the people at the college so that they can be sure that things are going to be ok.
In a sceond things started looking better for me. I will be first daughter from my family to venture out of the country on my own at 16!!It was exciting. It actually gave me a sense of achievement. It was hard for some digest the fact that my parents are sending their unmarried, 16 year old daugther to a far away place to study. For a male dominated society like ours it was something dramatic, something you won't do unless you had followd the same path .Both parents were educated in Nepal, they were the first ones in their family to go to college, in fact my mom is the only daugher in here family who has a college degree.Cousins and relatives, who would normally stay away from us because were not up to their standard, starting giving suggestions to my parents that they were making a mistake.Ya right!! a mistake!! because for them it was hard to digest the fact that we were doing something which they had not dared doing.They had sent their sons away to USA, Britain for higher education and kept their daughters are home. For the sake of preserving family honour.They had allowed all previliges to their sons, and taught the daughters that they don't need qality education like their brothers because their only role in life is going to be that of a house wife and mother.They were afriad that they were no longer the leaders, that position had now some to us.
Continued....
(fictional account, any resemblance to a real person is coincidence)
Copyright: Bhumika Ghimire,2006.
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