Frustrated with Not Meeting the Ideal Mate? Here´s How to End the Frustration

In their quest for true love, Americans spend hundreds of millions of dollars on online dating services every year, according to the Better Business Bureau. Meanwhile, 43 percent of U.S. adults -- that´s 87 million people -- are single, the Pew Internet & American Life Project found.

Still, even with all those fish in the sea, meeting the ideal mate is not always easy.

Pew Research discovered that only a small number -- 16 percent -- of those in the singles scene are actively looking for a partner. Taken this way, just 7 percent of U.S. adults are in the market for a new romance.

Searching for true love can feel like you´re searching for a needle in a haystack, and your emotions may be wearing thin, particularly if you´ve been on your own for awhile. Here are some dating  statistics  The Pew Project found:

47% of singles said there were very few single people in their town they´d be interested in dating

55% of singles looking for love said it was difficult to meet people

10% said they didn´t know much about the local singles scene

In time, it´s easy to internalize your search for the ideal mate and project reasons why it hasn´t worked  onto yourself. You may even begin to feel something is wrong with you simply because you haven´t found the right connection.  Though it may seem like the best way to meet Mr. or Ms. Right is to keep searching, this is actually the LAST thing you should be doing.

If You Want to Find Love, Stop Looking

"If you are searching for that perfect someone, stop!" says Hale Dwoskin, CEO and Director of Training at Sedona Training Associates.

"The best way to find or attract your perfect partner is to  be your own perfect partner first. Most of us are looking to complete ourselves in another person and this never works," he continues. "If you allow yourself to feel your own inner completeness -- that you are enough -- then you bring that feeling into your relationships."

In fact, the more you feel complete with yourself and your life, the more you will attract the people you´re looking for. It may sound hard to believe, but this transition will be effortless because you will have changed the flow of energy in your life.

Right now, for instance, you may be feeling burdened by your search for love, downhearted by its scarcity in your life, or anxious that you won´t find the one. These very natural feelings are putting out negativity all around you, and attracting more of it. This is where The Sedona Method -- a simple tool to release your negative emotions -- is invaluable.

As you release your fears, longing and anxiety, and even as you release the need to find a partner,  the energy around you  becomes positive.  In that positive energy is the key to attracting your ideal mate.

"If you really want  a relationship, others can sense that and they tend to shy away," Dwoskin says. "As you allow yourself to feel complete within yourself by letting go, you will find that you are much more open and available for Mr. or Ms. Right."

"Also remember that if you are like most people, you are only looking for one person -- not many -- so if you find yourself meeting some people who are not right at first that is OK," he says. "Your perfect partner is just a release away."