Been There Done That

I want to give you a brief overview of life as we know it here on this planet. We spend most of our waking and most quality hours working to make money so we can have certain things and do certain things. Having things makes us feel good but it’s the doing things part that is a bit of a challenge. That’s because we really want to have the ultimate experience whenever we have a few free hours, days or even minutes. So all the time that we’re hard at work we’re imagining what we will do with those precious moments of freedom.

Here are some typical single female examples:

I’ll go home, order my favorite pasta and watch my favorite program.

I’ll get a manicure on my way home before meeting my friends for dinner.

I’ll go past 57th on my lunch break and get those awesome leather boots that I don’t really need. But heck, I’ve earned it!

On an even higher scale:

I can’t wait for that ski trip to get here already!

I’m finally going out tonight with the man of my dreams!

Get the picture?

So let’s fast forward a bit to your bright future. You did all those things. You paid for the overpriced boots, caught your flight and are now actually on the ski trip you have been fantasizing about for so long. And as fate would have it, you made friends with a fantastic guy on the slopes and are meeting up with him later on to party. There is an immediate click and you have one of the best evenings of your life.

You wake up the next day -- now remember this is after you’ve been looking forward to buying those leather boots for weeks, looking forward to this expensive holiday for months, and daydreaming about meeting this type of guy for years -- it’s all finally coming together. You’ve accomplished everything on your checklist! But in reality, the guy of your dreams was also just passing through and has already left on an early flight. You wake up far away from home in a place where you are free to do whatever you want at any given moment …. and feel … nothing. Absolutely nothing. You just had the most incredible encounter with another human being. Everything was so perfect yesterday. So why do you feel empty inside today?

If you’re not single I know what you’re thinking. That of course a fling can’t fulfill us in the long run and that the only way to true fulfillment is in a long committed relationship like the one you’re in. But let me ask you -- do you feel fulfilled? Are you genuinely content or just going through the motions? If you say you’re content I would love to believe you but will have to assume that you’re lying. If not to me than to yourself.

Our egos have inflated to such an extent in our generation that it is impossible for us to find any lasting satisfaction from any relationship with another human being. We are all pretending otherwise because we have no other model of existence to follow. The male-female thing has been like it is since the beginning of time.

Where did we go wrong? And how can we get out of this rut we find ourselves in where nothing is fulfilling us for more than a few minutes?

According to Kabbalist Michael Laitman, PhD, since we're living in a special time where all processes are accelerated and our souls are becoming increasingly inter-connected, instead of just getting married once and living happily ever after like in the old days, nowadays a person is actually going through a number of incarnations here in this lifetime. That is the reason for the abnormal amount of break-ups and divorces we’re seeing nowadays.

The only way out of this maze is by discovering a source of fulfillment that will really do the trick. Because let’s face it, at the moment you are no better than a mouse on those little treadmill things in their cage. Granted you have clothes and a profession and friends and a life, but you are just going through the motions like everyone else. Living each day trying to surpass yesterday’s “thrilling” experience. Or just trying to get through the multitude of commitments you have every day so you can get some sleep. Or you’re under the illusion that after some specific thing happens everything will be better.

So back to tracking down the source of fulfillment that will surpass all other supposedly filling things in your life.

You: What does it look like? Can you please describe it to me?

Me: No, you need to have a special 6th sense to pick it up because the five we were given can’t feel it.

You: How can I get that 6th sense?

Me: Only by being exposed to authentic Kabbalah materials.

You: That sounds relatively simple. How much does it cost?

Me: Not a dime. And the great Kabbalists have been waiting for you for a very long time.

You: Why me?

Me: Because you have a point in your heart that is about to explode if it doesn’t get the filling it is seeking.

You: How do I know this is for real?

Me: You don’t. Only your heart can tell you. Open your heart to it and check for yourself. If it works, you know you’re in the right place. If it doesn’t, keep on searching.

Keep on going on trips to faraway resorts. Keep on meeting people you think can provide you with this feeling. Keep on filling your life with things that will pacify this internal yearning for something better. Keep on doing all those things until you figure out that it’s all just a game and you’re the main player in a movie about your life. Keep on doing all those things until you’re ready to become the director. Then you can really start making some serious plans. But until then, party on!

Josia Nakash is a marketing consultant and copywriter in Israel. Having searched for meaning for many years and found it in Kabbalah, Josia is dedicated to promoting the hidden wisdom that is now available to all. You are welcome to visit her blog Kabbalah For Women and contact her with feedback or questions at josia@kabbalah.info. © Copyright 2006 by Josia Nakash