Have You Said Those Three Little Words Lately?
Judy Ramsook
February 22, 2006
There are some little things in life for which some people have a low tolerance. Some of these things are little annoyances, nothing much, and can range from the way one slurps his beverage of choice or his soup to a simple display of affection in a public setting.
Believe it or not, yes, even today, there are some persons who cannot stand to see two people who are in love hold hands or kiss each other in public.
On the other hand, what if some one grows up in an environment which is absent of any such displays of affection. Such as, say one’s parents are the stoic, distant types, which would also mean a child in such a family may not have grown up hearing those three words I Love You, nor see any such open displays of affection.
This does not necessarily mean that person did not grow up feeling loved. He or she may have had other ways of knowing such as a show of concern when venturing out with friends and other signs he had become accustomed to; whether it’s a simple where are you going question from one of those parents or something else such as who are you going out with?
So that one person grows and all is going well, until he or she meets some one who is accustomed to being shown and told how others feel about him or her and vice versa.
Everything with the dating process seems to be going well, then comes that time when the person who has grown used to hearing and saying those three little words utters those three words after which there is an uneasy pause.
For the person who was brought up in the environment in which those words were never spoken feels a romantic attachment for the other, but just finds it difficult to somehow say those words. It is at this time that the other individual starts entertaining thoughts that are indicative of rejection.
What’s even worse is this little pause could mean the end of what could have been a lasting relationship. All because of what? Not showing or saying how you felt about the other person. Then as you toss the incident over in your mind on that sleepless night, you ponder something else.
Although you were not brought up to show or tell how you feel about some one, maybe you should have made an exception this time. Sometimes an affectionate look may work, but some people need more confirmation than that.
They might want to hear those three little words once in a while, whether you are accustomed to saying them or not at all. For saying them or remaining silent could make or break that relationship that could have been the one.
Believe it or not, yes, even today, there are some persons who cannot stand to see two people who are in love hold hands or kiss each other in public.
On the other hand, what if some one grows up in an environment which is absent of any such displays of affection. Such as, say one’s parents are the stoic, distant types, which would also mean a child in such a family may not have grown up hearing those three words I Love You, nor see any such open displays of affection.
This does not necessarily mean that person did not grow up feeling loved. He or she may have had other ways of knowing such as a show of concern when venturing out with friends and other signs he had become accustomed to; whether it’s a simple where are you going question from one of those parents or something else such as who are you going out with?
So that one person grows and all is going well, until he or she meets some one who is accustomed to being shown and told how others feel about him or her and vice versa.
Everything with the dating process seems to be going well, then comes that time when the person who has grown used to hearing and saying those three little words utters those three words after which there is an uneasy pause.
For the person who was brought up in the environment in which those words were never spoken feels a romantic attachment for the other, but just finds it difficult to somehow say those words. It is at this time that the other individual starts entertaining thoughts that are indicative of rejection.
What’s even worse is this little pause could mean the end of what could have been a lasting relationship. All because of what? Not showing or saying how you felt about the other person. Then as you toss the incident over in your mind on that sleepless night, you ponder something else.
Although you were not brought up to show or tell how you feel about some one, maybe you should have made an exception this time. Sometimes an affectionate look may work, but some people need more confirmation than that.
They might want to hear those three little words once in a while, whether you are accustomed to saying them or not at all. For saying them or remaining silent could make or break that relationship that could have been the one.
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