Relationship Insecurity: How to Overcome it for Good

Most people may feel insecure when meeting someone new and even during the beginning stages of dating. However, if you are in a committed relationship with a loving partner, and you have nagging insecurities about yourself and your partner, something deeper may be at work.

Insecurity often stems from fear: Fear of rejection, fear of intimacy, and even fear of losing your identity may all come into play. It´s also likely that you have brought these insecurities from a past relationship, and are allowing them to wreak havoc on your present one.

When you feel insecure it´s next to impossible to have a healthy relationship, as insecurities can manifest in many ways:

Feeling that you don´t deserve your partner

Accusing your partner of infidelity

Becoming codependent

Envying other people and/or their relationship

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Meanwhile, the more insecure you feel, the more likely you are to distrust your partner, attempt to control him or her, or avoid discussing future plans -- all of which can ultimately lead to what you fear: a relationship breakdown.

What can you do to break this cycle and feel confident in yourself and your relationship?

First, realize that only you, and not your partner, can give yourself inner strength.

"Remember that security never comes from outside of yourself -- especially from another person," says Hale Dwoskin, CEO and Director of Training at Sedona Training Associates. "The best way to find security in a relationship is to bring your own inner security with you."

Now, if you´re having trouble finding your inner security, all you have to do is release your feelings of insecurity, including fear, anxiety, mistrust and negative self-talk. If this sounds difficult, then you have not learned The Sedona Method. With this tool, you will learn how to lose your insecurities as easily as you can drop a pencil.

"If you are feeling insecure in a relationship, treat it as the feeling that it is and let it go," Dwoskin says.

Then, take some time to rekindle the romance that may have dwindled.

Keep in mind, however, that while many insecurities are internal issues that need to be released, some may be legitimate. How can you tell the difference?

"If the feeling of insecurity persists even after some good releasing then it´s time to examine whether or not this is the right relationship for you," Dwoskin says.