Are You Over Your "Old Flame"?
Corinne Casazza
February 15, 2008
According to a New York Times poll, nearly 60 percent of Americans still think about their teenage sweetheart. For you, it may not be a teenage sweetheart, but perhaps another old flame that still makes your heart beat faster. If so, you are not alone.
The Internet now makes possible in a matter of minutes, what used to occur only rarely. According to one of the most popular reunion Web sites, Classmates.com, about 39 percent of its members -- or nearly 15 million people -- have used the Internet to find an old flame.
Your interest in your old flame may not be this obvious, or desired, however. While there are many success stories of reunited first loves, holding on to past loves can often keep you from moving forward in your life, or -- if you are already in a happy relationship – may sabotage the love you have now.
"Being in love with an ex is never the problem," says Hale Dwoskin, CEO and Director of Training at Sedona Training Associates. "The problem is still being attached to them or wanting something from them after the relationship has ended."
How do you know if you´re still attached?
"You are still holding on if you continually miss them, think about them all the time, fantasize about them, or generally obsess over them," Dwoskin says.
You can put your past relationship into the proper perspective -- where you learn from the experience and even still care for the person without harboring any regret, sadness, longing or envy – by taking control of your emotions with The Sedona Method.
The Sedona Method teaches you to let go of negative emotions leaving you free to feel confident, happy and content with your life.
By doing this, you can release the feelings that may be holding you back from finding a new, more fulfilling relationship, or from devoting the required attention to your current relationship.
"If you´re still holding on to your old flame, this can be corrected easily by letting go of the feelings of attachment or wanting anything from the person," Dwoskin says. "This frees you to love them from afar and move on to what´s right for you."
The Internet now makes possible in a matter of minutes, what used to occur only rarely. According to one of the most popular reunion Web sites, Classmates.com, about 39 percent of its members -- or nearly 15 million people -- have used the Internet to find an old flame.
Your interest in your old flame may not be this obvious, or desired, however. While there are many success stories of reunited first loves, holding on to past loves can often keep you from moving forward in your life, or -- if you are already in a happy relationship – may sabotage the love you have now.
"Being in love with an ex is never the problem," says Hale Dwoskin, CEO and Director of Training at Sedona Training Associates. "The problem is still being attached to them or wanting something from them after the relationship has ended."
How do you know if you´re still attached?
"You are still holding on if you continually miss them, think about them all the time, fantasize about them, or generally obsess over them," Dwoskin says.
You can put your past relationship into the proper perspective -- where you learn from the experience and even still care for the person without harboring any regret, sadness, longing or envy – by taking control of your emotions with The Sedona Method.
The Sedona Method teaches you to let go of negative emotions leaving you free to feel confident, happy and content with your life.
By doing this, you can release the feelings that may be holding you back from finding a new, more fulfilling relationship, or from devoting the required attention to your current relationship.
"If you´re still holding on to your old flame, this can be corrected easily by letting go of the feelings of attachment or wanting anything from the person," Dwoskin says. "This frees you to love them from afar and move on to what´s right for you."
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