10 Ways to Say I Love You to Your Partner without Using Words
Tara Paterson
February 07, 2008
Ask him how his day was and really listen, before you tell him all of the reasons your kids pushed your buttons.
Have a romantic, candlelit dinner in your dining room after the kids are settled for the night. Fix your favorite restaurant meal (steak, fish) in the comfort of your own home. To make it extra special, ask your teenage son or daughter to serve you your meal (if at all possible)!
Make his favorite birthday meal or dessert out of the blue. Preparing something special unexpectedly is a labor of love and lets him know you were thinking of him for no other reason than- just because.
Set aside time each day to do something with your spouse only. Play a game; have a one on one conversation and ask the kids to leave you alone; take a walk; run an errand; watch a movie.. Remember this person is most likely your best friend, so spend time with them as such.
Have a date night. Be spontaneous and go somewhere you´ve never been before. Make an effort to avoid doing the same thing when planning your date night or it will eventually become routine. If you have the opportunity, stay over night at a bed and breakfast or a nice hotel so you can sleep as late you want the next day.
When your partner shares an authentic feeling with you, truly hear what he´s saying, don´t just listen. Often times we miss the early cues when something is bothering our significant other, because we are too busy trying to point out how they were at fault too. Hear what she is saying and acknowledge her feelings as important, regardless of what you think.
Don´t keep a score card for who does what. We all carry the extra load at times, but the more we are aware of the imbalance, the more imbalances we will create. Enjoy what you´re doing in the moment and remember we each have our own expectations for how we want things to be and we project that expectation onto our partner. Remember not all things need to become a major issue.
Be silly together. Run around the house after the kids or dance to songs on the radio. Play monsters or hide and seek and don´t worry about how you look. One of the things we loved most about our partner when we first met was how much fun we had together.
Except your significant other simply for who they are. The most powerful love is love unspoken or unconditional love which allows each of us to be who we are meant to be. When we expect someone to act or do what we want them to do, we are often disappointed, but trusting that each person is being lead on their journey and accepting that, can transform a relationship like nothing else.
2008 by Tara Paterson, ACPI Certified Coach for Parents™ of Intuitives
All Rights Reserved
www.JustForMom.com, www.AcademyforCoachingParents.com/ici/index.htm
Print
Email
