A Show Of Appreciation Can Go A Long Way
Judy Ramsook
November 22, 2005
Various psychological experts have stated that the person who has a good relationship with one’s parents will end up with the right person for his or her romantic partner.
But while looking at a recent episode of The Simpsons, in which Lisa becomes upset upon observing how unappreciated her birthday gift to Homer is, one could wonder are some parents inadvertently damaging their kids by such displays of inconsideration.
Now many among us do not know what actually happens to a particular gift once it’s been given to a particular person, but when one is still pretty much a kid and lives with his or her parents, who happen to be on the receiving end of that gift, sometimes it is easy to observe what happens to that token of one’s affection.
If the present is something that is an item one can use for something, then maybe it is used in that capacity.
But if the gift is comprised of a plaque, card or something one can hang on a wall as a decorative item, and is later found to have been stuffed away in the closet, the giver can feel as if his or her efforts to make or buy the gift have gone unappreciated, moreso when the one showing no appreciation happens to be a parent, such as the case of Homer, in The Simpsons.
Of course during the course of the episode, Homer does his best to compensate for his indiscretion to Lisa, but how many parents in real life are not not showing their kids any appreciation for their efforts take or make the time to make it up to their children in some way or another. And are those parents in a quiet and subconscious sort of way making their kids feel less important?
And when that happens, since one’s mother and father is the first female or male role model he or she comes into contact with, will those first impressions leave one feeling as if he or she has lost all faith in the male or female gender?
Some people may not allow such things to bother them, but some sensitive people in our midst may see things different, and yes, such displays of a deed gone unappreciated may even end up impacting their social lives later on.
Parenting is a serious responsibility and so are one’s actions. So show a little appreciation the next time your child hands you that home made plaque, or card, for a better tomorrow.
But while looking at a recent episode of The Simpsons, in which Lisa becomes upset upon observing how unappreciated her birthday gift to Homer is, one could wonder are some parents inadvertently damaging their kids by such displays of inconsideration.
Now many among us do not know what actually happens to a particular gift once it’s been given to a particular person, but when one is still pretty much a kid and lives with his or her parents, who happen to be on the receiving end of that gift, sometimes it is easy to observe what happens to that token of one’s affection.
If the present is something that is an item one can use for something, then maybe it is used in that capacity.
But if the gift is comprised of a plaque, card or something one can hang on a wall as a decorative item, and is later found to have been stuffed away in the closet, the giver can feel as if his or her efforts to make or buy the gift have gone unappreciated, moreso when the one showing no appreciation happens to be a parent, such as the case of Homer, in The Simpsons.
Of course during the course of the episode, Homer does his best to compensate for his indiscretion to Lisa, but how many parents in real life are not not showing their kids any appreciation for their efforts take or make the time to make it up to their children in some way or another. And are those parents in a quiet and subconscious sort of way making their kids feel less important?
And when that happens, since one’s mother and father is the first female or male role model he or she comes into contact with, will those first impressions leave one feeling as if he or she has lost all faith in the male or female gender?
Some people may not allow such things to bother them, but some sensitive people in our midst may see things different, and yes, such displays of a deed gone unappreciated may even end up impacting their social lives later on.
Parenting is a serious responsibility and so are one’s actions. So show a little appreciation the next time your child hands you that home made plaque, or card, for a better tomorrow.
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