Have Critical Points of Change Altered Your Path in Life?

I'm often approached for coaching by people who say, "My life has changed so much. I don't understand how I ended up 'here' instead of where I thought I would be today."

The average person doesn't realize that what causes our paths to the future to change so dramatically are frequently the choices we make for ourselves -- or the choices others make in reference to their own lives. These choices critically affect our lives in terms of the future.

Critical points of change are often perceived in Personal Prophesy readings long before they take the shape of reality. Marriages hold critical points of change. Work environments, career pursuits. Relationships with family members and friends. Even something as seemingly harmless as choosing to take a vacation can produce a critical point of change.

Let's take a closer look at what may catapult us down new paths to the future as a result of critical points of change.

Marriage: Intuitively speaking, people tend to view marriage as they enter into it as a gleaming expanse of highway leading toward a beautiful, romantic, richly blessed future to be shared together.

Unfortunately, marriage isn't that effortless. Marriage is, in actuality, a rough, rut-ridden road that two people travel and hope to conquer together. Once the bloom is off that wedding rose, couples find themselves putting forth great effort to meet day-to-day responsibilities. They cope with financial struggles, relationship conflicts, and the stress of raising children. They are essentially compelled to adjust to and accept human imperfection in their partners -- or change results.

By not being able to accept and adjust in order to keep those marriages strong, they willfully gravitate toward a critical point of change.

Two imperfect people who come together and commit to marriage will never be able to achieve perfection in their relationship, no matter how hard they may try. What they learn in the process of living and grappling with love's deep complexities are difficult lessons in humility and compassion as well as understanding and forgiveness. Marriage forces us to extend ourselves in terms of loving, emotionally growing and maturing in the process.

Whenever we find we can't extend ourselves in order to be able to give more than what we feel we are receiving, or when we can't handle the stresses or the ups and downs of what we perceived would be a "perfect" union, a critical point of change takes shape. And from it, entirely new futures are naturally formed.

A wife may choose to engage in an extra-marital affair with a partner she perceives to be more loving, and more attentive to her needs. By doing so she grows away from her husband emotionally, and she points herself toward a new path to the future.

Alternately, a husband may choose to bury himself in his work rather than cope with his frustration over seemingly insurmountable problems at home. By doing so he steadily loses his focus on his marriage, and by choosing to escape through work, he radically alters the direction his life is taking toward the future.

Divorce is, intuitively speaking, a critical point of change.

Illness, Accidents, and Death: As hard as we may try to maintain a happy, healthy, safe existence, one of these three will inevitably have an impact upon our lives at some point.

A loved one may suddenly be diagnosed with cancer. A spouse may wave goodbye from the driveway, only to be killed minutes later in an accident on the interstate. A son goes swimming and suffers brain damage from one reckless dive. A daughter contracts AIDS from a boyfriend. You may discover as a result of a routine physical that you have less than a year to live.

In Personal Prophesy readings, these are all perceived to be critical points of change, bringing important life lessons our way which will profoundly affect our futures. We are forced to face and cope with these life-altering changes in order to achieve a deeper inner strength and a higher level of spirituality about life from our ultimate acceptance of these human tragedies.

One of the most basic principles of Personal Prophesy is, "Give the best of yourself in the present moment." In other words, strive to repair conflict-ridden relationships in your life today. Express your love freely to family members and friends. Extend forgiveness to those who need it from you, now. Appreciate your health and the many blessings life has bestowed upon you and your families.

The Tomorrow you are counting on to help you resolve pain in your relationships or to allow you the opportunity to show your love and give from your heart and live life to the fullest - may never come. It's what you do with this beautiful, powerful, and wonderful moment you stand in right now - Today - that counts. It isn't that elusive tomorrow you may be relying on to make this moment right.

You: That's right, "you" are a critical point of change in terms of your own life. Every single day you make choices that hold the potential to radically affect your path to the future.

You may choose to suddenly change professions or to move to another part of the country. You may conceive a child or choose to abort one you've already conceived. You may decide to quit drinking or using drugs. You may reunite with a family member, or you may come out of the closet and proclaim your homosexuality. You may choose not to be promiscuous anymore or to go back to school. You may commit yourself to making your marriage work or to leave an exceedingly unhealthy one.

You may also courageously accept the challenges life has thrust into your path as you cope with a serious tragedy.

If you find yourself saying, "I don't know how I ended up 'here' instead of where I thought I would be today," reflect on your past, the life you've been living from minute to minute. You'll undoubtedly find that you are exactly where you are supposed to be as a result of your own life experiences and critical points of change which led you directly to this moment!