Is Marriage A Saviour?
Judy Ramsook
October 26, 2005
If some people in our midst want to discontinue a bad habit, such as excessive gambling, or the excessive consumption of alcoholic beverages, then he/she will take the necessary steps to withdraw himself/herself from such things.
He she might join a gambling therapy group and attend AA meetings to quit the excessive drinking.
But if one is in search of something like marriage, something he/she thinks will prevent him/her from being promiscuous, will marriage then work as some sort of salvation?
That might largely depend upon whom one is married to, for there are some individuals who break some rules of that type of binding agreement.
For no matter how hard one tries to overcome some temptations without giving in, sometimes when the right combination of weakness and available temptation show themselves, one will find that being married to some one might not always work as the ultimate barrier.
By this time, for example, each one of us might know at least one person, be it a friend or family member who has succumbed to divorce due to an act of infidelity on either his/her mate’s part or his/her own part.
And there are other issues that can complicate matters even further. Things like STDs or sexually transmitted diseases that could infect the one committing the act of infidelity which he/she could inadvertently pass on to his/her spouse at home.
And when that occurs, is when the marriage begins to crumble. Especially if one did not have this type of problem prior to the act of infidelity. Then there might be other problems as well, such as financial irresponsibility.
For example, one’s spouse could secretly be a big spender or gambler. And when the other person in the marriage starts noticing certain things about that joint bank account is when a problem could arise too.
For that bit of money in that account was not placed there solely by the one who is the secret spender/gambler, some of that was also put there by his/her spouse, thus a good bit of that money belongs to the mate who could be relying on it to pay bills and so on.
Marriage may be the bond that brings two people together in that fancy home in the suburbs, that nice car in the driveway and yes, it could even give one a sense of emotional stability, but ultimately, it is self control that wins the day. The self control to look temptation in the face in that moment of weakness, and walk away.
He she might join a gambling therapy group and attend AA meetings to quit the excessive drinking.
But if one is in search of something like marriage, something he/she thinks will prevent him/her from being promiscuous, will marriage then work as some sort of salvation?
That might largely depend upon whom one is married to, for there are some individuals who break some rules of that type of binding agreement.
For no matter how hard one tries to overcome some temptations without giving in, sometimes when the right combination of weakness and available temptation show themselves, one will find that being married to some one might not always work as the ultimate barrier.
By this time, for example, each one of us might know at least one person, be it a friend or family member who has succumbed to divorce due to an act of infidelity on either his/her mate’s part or his/her own part.
And there are other issues that can complicate matters even further. Things like STDs or sexually transmitted diseases that could infect the one committing the act of infidelity which he/she could inadvertently pass on to his/her spouse at home.
And when that occurs, is when the marriage begins to crumble. Especially if one did not have this type of problem prior to the act of infidelity. Then there might be other problems as well, such as financial irresponsibility.
For example, one’s spouse could secretly be a big spender or gambler. And when the other person in the marriage starts noticing certain things about that joint bank account is when a problem could arise too.
For that bit of money in that account was not placed there solely by the one who is the secret spender/gambler, some of that was also put there by his/her spouse, thus a good bit of that money belongs to the mate who could be relying on it to pay bills and so on.
Marriage may be the bond that brings two people together in that fancy home in the suburbs, that nice car in the driveway and yes, it could even give one a sense of emotional stability, but ultimately, it is self control that wins the day. The self control to look temptation in the face in that moment of weakness, and walk away.
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