Online Dating Is Fine, But What About Some Of Those Photos?
Judy Ramsook
October 17, 2005
A few years ago when the internet as we know it today was the latest and exciting form of communicating, shopping, and finding information, most people, computer literate or not could not wait to catch a glimpse of this information highway called the internet.
If some one did not own a computer, he/she became ecstatic at the mere notion of being close to one so maybe he/she could catch a glimpse of what all the fuss about the internet was.
Now, with a much improved and widely used medium, there are many services one can find on the internet. Things ranging from online shopping to chatrooms, places where one can place resumes to land that perfect job, and even online dating.
And what if one’s search for the ideal mate leads him/her to a profile that seems too good to be true.
Like maybe the individual whose profile is being viewed has all the things one has been searching for in another human being. Things like the attractive looking face, education, likes/dislikes and a date is set.
And upon arriving at the appointed place at the time on which you both agreed, you realise something else.
That the person who is waiting for you looks a bit different from the way he/she looked on the online dating services website, maybe even older.
But say somewhere along the evening, the individual lets you in on a bit of information about the photo he/she placed on the internet. That bit of information being that the online photo was taken more than say ten years ago.
Would you instantly feel as though you have been cheated or deceived? How do you think he/she would react had you placed an old photo of yourself on there? Would he/she expect you to just laugh it off and move on much like he/she expects you to react?
Some might say that if the individual looks just like the image in the photo, then there should not be a problem, and if your date is happy with that, it’s fine, but sometimes it’s the principle that counts.
That if you want some one to think highly of you, then sometimes it’s worth the extra effort to send the right message.
For just like you examine that item in the store that you are going to purchase, so would most people prefer to get a good look at what he/she is getting before he/she embarks on that date.
Now not everyone owns or can afford the luxury of a digital camera, but there are alternatives out there.
For example, if some one wants a recent digital photo of himself/herself and does not have a digital camera, he/she can go to any photo shop or even some department store and have them, for a small fee, take a photo which can be saved to a disc so you can upload it to your computer later on.
And it’s far better than feeling or making your date whom you met online feel awkward on that first date where first impressions do count.
If some one did not own a computer, he/she became ecstatic at the mere notion of being close to one so maybe he/she could catch a glimpse of what all the fuss about the internet was.
Now, with a much improved and widely used medium, there are many services one can find on the internet. Things ranging from online shopping to chatrooms, places where one can place resumes to land that perfect job, and even online dating.
And what if one’s search for the ideal mate leads him/her to a profile that seems too good to be true.
Like maybe the individual whose profile is being viewed has all the things one has been searching for in another human being. Things like the attractive looking face, education, likes/dislikes and a date is set.
And upon arriving at the appointed place at the time on which you both agreed, you realise something else.
That the person who is waiting for you looks a bit different from the way he/she looked on the online dating services website, maybe even older.
But say somewhere along the evening, the individual lets you in on a bit of information about the photo he/she placed on the internet. That bit of information being that the online photo was taken more than say ten years ago.
Would you instantly feel as though you have been cheated or deceived? How do you think he/she would react had you placed an old photo of yourself on there? Would he/she expect you to just laugh it off and move on much like he/she expects you to react?
Some might say that if the individual looks just like the image in the photo, then there should not be a problem, and if your date is happy with that, it’s fine, but sometimes it’s the principle that counts.
That if you want some one to think highly of you, then sometimes it’s worth the extra effort to send the right message.
For just like you examine that item in the store that you are going to purchase, so would most people prefer to get a good look at what he/she is getting before he/she embarks on that date.
Now not everyone owns or can afford the luxury of a digital camera, but there are alternatives out there.
For example, if some one wants a recent digital photo of himself/herself and does not have a digital camera, he/she can go to any photo shop or even some department store and have them, for a small fee, take a photo which can be saved to a disc so you can upload it to your computer later on.
And it’s far better than feeling or making your date whom you met online feel awkward on that first date where first impressions do count.
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