Understanding the Feminine Psyche
Michele Marie Tate
January 13, 2012
The physical difference between females and males is obvious. Although, the variation of how each gender communicates, behaves and reacts can be difficult to understand.
The purpose of this article is to bring some clarity, comprehension and understanding of the feminine being.
Girls, even in pregnancy are carried in a rounder outer form and are usually less active in the womb than boys. The differences after birth become more noticeable in behavior and demeanor early on. Girls tend be more affectionate and show their feelings or emotions with expressions and instantaneously outbursts. Could it be that the heart of a female arrives with a stronger inner connection to her inner self then the masculine who arrives with a stronger inner connection to his brain?
This has nothing to do with intelligence or depth. It has to do with the inner wiring of the psyche. This is the part of us, which is pre-wired and pre-programmed, before our birth.
To understand the Feminine psyche, you need to have a greater comprehension of the dynamics and general make up of our world, the cosmos and all things. Most everything has an opposite or opposing element. Like the Chinese Ying and Yang, our world is made of opposites in sets of twos. Examples: Female/Male, Day/Night, Above/Below, Black/White and Good and Evil. Thus the make up of female and males have opposing elements. Not just sexual organs, but also their way of thought, communication and behavioral patterns.
Our physical external make up looks the same. Both are born with the same set of twos. We all have two eyes, two ears, two arms and two legs; please use your imagination for other similarities.
This outer structure creates balance and a partnership that can work together. Going internally our brain has two sides, the difference here is usually we tend to associate more with either the right or left side. Could this be why the behaviors are so different that it is said, "Men come from Mars while Women come from Venus."
As you know there is a natural balance in nature, where even animals seek partners of the opposite sex. In most all species there is a gender role for the female and male. Today, in modern society the human gender roles for both the female and male are changing. This dynamic has caused much stress and misunderstandings in personal relationships. Also, communication, interpersonal and moral guides have shifted so that these differences in way of thought, feeling and expectation within the gender roles have created jealousy, mistrust and disappointment in many partnerships.
Misunderstandings are the greatest cause for the break-up of most relationships between human beings. That is because each of us is wired a little different. With the greatest difference being how females and males communicate, think and react to life situations.
The feminine essence is wired so that everything she sees, feels and experiences directly goes to an emotional response. The reason for this is her gender role is to nurture, care and share. So it is natural for her to sacrifice be supportive and put others first. These are considered the highest attributes of being a mother.
Yet her partner, the male is wired to process directly through to his brain. So his thought is more logical, aesthetic and objective. Each gender offers an opposing view of personal experience. In a partnership each side brings something important to the table. It works if an equal amount of sensitivity to the other´s outlook is acknowledged and understood. This is not always the case and where the importance of understanding the feminine psyche comes into play.
I will follow up with some examples of how this is best understood.
Often men and women perceive the same communication in different ways.
One saying in particular comes to mind, "I love you."
When a woman states this, she will feel it down to her very core. A commitment of self and everything tied to it.
A man can say these same words and only be thinking of what outcome they might offer and not be tied at all to them emotionally.
Women communicate well with other women, because they express the same sensitivity to one another.
Men communicate often with fewer words and often times joke about anything with a personal connection to them.
Another word that has different meaning to each gender is "relationship."
Women tend to believe they are a good source of interest, growth and sharing.
Men tend to believe they restrict their independence and space.
Another opposing interpretation happens when a woman says, "Let´s talk."
She feels this will help improve the immediate situation with clear communication.
A man interprets this as stating this talk will only be about his partner´s unhappiness and will not accomplish anything, but that he is the problem.
Instead a woman might add, "Let´s not discuss any problems and only talk about possible solutions. Then ask him for his ideas."
Also I will add what men can expect and not expect from the Feminine psyche today.
1) Expect expressive emotions and responses.
2) Expect empathy, nurturing and tenderness.
3) Expect deep sensitivity.
4) Expect defensiveness against judgment of her children and anyone she cares about.
5) When she is emotionally hurt expect a lash of anger and pain equal to the cry of physical pain or anguish.
6) Expect her to interpret your body language.
7) Expect her to cry if you ignore her, become unresponsive or stop talking.
8) Expect her to tell you about her feelings more than once.
9) Expect her to be complex, amazing and unpredictable.
10) Expect her to laugh freely, snuggle closely and love deeply.
What not to expect is something I´ve come to learn from my sixty-two years of life as a woman, my experience as a relationship counselor and being a certified hypnotherapist who specialized in past life regression. Also, I´ve have been married for forty-four of those years to a man who has yet to fully understand me. Yet, he accepts me for all my worth. Woman today are lucky because we live in an age when our rights, opinions and value have risen in our social society.
In times past and today these three words often haunted and chained our female gender. They all begin with the letter "S". They are slave, servant and sacrifice. The other word that can still hold a chain of control is sex.
This feminine gender role still plays out in many parts of our world. Sometimes it is in done in secrecy, other times publicly. It demeans the feminine psyche as being weak and passive and promotes male dominance and control. Women all over the planet are still fighting for equality and freedoms. I´m so proud of these brave women who continue to fight for our equality.
Throughout history woman have left their mark of greatness. Some are Joan of Arc, Cleopatra, Marie Curie, Louisa May Alcott, Clara Barton, Amelia Earhart, Zelma Watson George, Laura Ingalls Wilder, Helen Keller, Eleanor Anna Roosevelt and Margaret Thatcher. Some famous woman of the twentieth century include: Jane Goodall, Sandra Day O´Connor, Hilary Rodham Clinton, Rosa Park, Jacqueline Kennedy, Billie Jean King, Coco Chanel, Mother Teresa and Oprah Winfrey.
Lastly, I will tell you what not to expect from the feminine psyche.
1) Don´t expect her to say I´m sorry first.
2) Don´t expect her to tell you why she is crying, sad or in a bad mood.
3) Don´t her expect her not to cry, scream or not grab onto you when you are watching a sad, sappy or scary movie.
4) Don´t expect her to stop talking until she is finished explaining her feelings to you.
5) Don´t expect instant forgiveness if the hurt is deep.
6) Don´t expect to stop hugging or holding her until she pulls away.
7) Don´t expect sex every time, set a romantic stage and she won´t say no.
8) If you need space, directions or time with your buddies, don´t expect her to understand unless you give her equal time with her girlfriends.
9) Don´t expect instant passion, remember woman warm up like an iron while men turn on like a light bulb.
10) Don´t expect to understand everything she does or says.
Remember that compliments, presents and tender affection are good communication tools. Honesty, trust and emotional support build a solid base for any relationship.
Women sometimes today take on the masculine role of main support and career, while the man becomes the caretaker of the home and children. This changes these dynamics somewhat, but not entirely.
To understand the social changes taking place in our society, you need to understand that it is a re-balance of nature. Whenever something is not is harmony, in time change will happen.
The overall picture of our planet reflects imbalance. Power, greed and dominance of others are the prevailing energies. The need for a re-balance can happen as the feminine psyche raises our consciousness with the philosophy of nurturing, caring and sharing with others.
This can offer harmony, peace and a world where all human beings, no matter what gender will hold the hope for humankind to love one another.
Remember that fear holds you back, while faith moves you forward. My website and blog are: michelemarietate.com
The purpose of this article is to bring some clarity, comprehension and understanding of the feminine being.
Girls, even in pregnancy are carried in a rounder outer form and are usually less active in the womb than boys. The differences after birth become more noticeable in behavior and demeanor early on. Girls tend be more affectionate and show their feelings or emotions with expressions and instantaneously outbursts. Could it be that the heart of a female arrives with a stronger inner connection to her inner self then the masculine who arrives with a stronger inner connection to his brain?
This has nothing to do with intelligence or depth. It has to do with the inner wiring of the psyche. This is the part of us, which is pre-wired and pre-programmed, before our birth.
To understand the Feminine psyche, you need to have a greater comprehension of the dynamics and general make up of our world, the cosmos and all things. Most everything has an opposite or opposing element. Like the Chinese Ying and Yang, our world is made of opposites in sets of twos. Examples: Female/Male, Day/Night, Above/Below, Black/White and Good and Evil. Thus the make up of female and males have opposing elements. Not just sexual organs, but also their way of thought, communication and behavioral patterns.
Our physical external make up looks the same. Both are born with the same set of twos. We all have two eyes, two ears, two arms and two legs; please use your imagination for other similarities.
This outer structure creates balance and a partnership that can work together. Going internally our brain has two sides, the difference here is usually we tend to associate more with either the right or left side. Could this be why the behaviors are so different that it is said, "Men come from Mars while Women come from Venus."
As you know there is a natural balance in nature, where even animals seek partners of the opposite sex. In most all species there is a gender role for the female and male. Today, in modern society the human gender roles for both the female and male are changing. This dynamic has caused much stress and misunderstandings in personal relationships. Also, communication, interpersonal and moral guides have shifted so that these differences in way of thought, feeling and expectation within the gender roles have created jealousy, mistrust and disappointment in many partnerships.
Misunderstandings are the greatest cause for the break-up of most relationships between human beings. That is because each of us is wired a little different. With the greatest difference being how females and males communicate, think and react to life situations.
The feminine essence is wired so that everything she sees, feels and experiences directly goes to an emotional response. The reason for this is her gender role is to nurture, care and share. So it is natural for her to sacrifice be supportive and put others first. These are considered the highest attributes of being a mother.
Yet her partner, the male is wired to process directly through to his brain. So his thought is more logical, aesthetic and objective. Each gender offers an opposing view of personal experience. In a partnership each side brings something important to the table. It works if an equal amount of sensitivity to the other´s outlook is acknowledged and understood. This is not always the case and where the importance of understanding the feminine psyche comes into play.
I will follow up with some examples of how this is best understood.
Often men and women perceive the same communication in different ways.
One saying in particular comes to mind, "I love you."
When a woman states this, she will feel it down to her very core. A commitment of self and everything tied to it.
A man can say these same words and only be thinking of what outcome they might offer and not be tied at all to them emotionally.
Women communicate well with other women, because they express the same sensitivity to one another.
Men communicate often with fewer words and often times joke about anything with a personal connection to them.
Another word that has different meaning to each gender is "relationship."
Women tend to believe they are a good source of interest, growth and sharing.
Men tend to believe they restrict their independence and space.
Another opposing interpretation happens when a woman says, "Let´s talk."
She feels this will help improve the immediate situation with clear communication.
A man interprets this as stating this talk will only be about his partner´s unhappiness and will not accomplish anything, but that he is the problem.
Instead a woman might add, "Let´s not discuss any problems and only talk about possible solutions. Then ask him for his ideas."
Also I will add what men can expect and not expect from the Feminine psyche today.
1) Expect expressive emotions and responses.
2) Expect empathy, nurturing and tenderness.
3) Expect deep sensitivity.
4) Expect defensiveness against judgment of her children and anyone she cares about.
5) When she is emotionally hurt expect a lash of anger and pain equal to the cry of physical pain or anguish.
6) Expect her to interpret your body language.
7) Expect her to cry if you ignore her, become unresponsive or stop talking.
8) Expect her to tell you about her feelings more than once.
9) Expect her to be complex, amazing and unpredictable.
10) Expect her to laugh freely, snuggle closely and love deeply.
What not to expect is something I´ve come to learn from my sixty-two years of life as a woman, my experience as a relationship counselor and being a certified hypnotherapist who specialized in past life regression. Also, I´ve have been married for forty-four of those years to a man who has yet to fully understand me. Yet, he accepts me for all my worth. Woman today are lucky because we live in an age when our rights, opinions and value have risen in our social society.
In times past and today these three words often haunted and chained our female gender. They all begin with the letter "S". They are slave, servant and sacrifice. The other word that can still hold a chain of control is sex.
This feminine gender role still plays out in many parts of our world. Sometimes it is in done in secrecy, other times publicly. It demeans the feminine psyche as being weak and passive and promotes male dominance and control. Women all over the planet are still fighting for equality and freedoms. I´m so proud of these brave women who continue to fight for our equality.
Throughout history woman have left their mark of greatness. Some are Joan of Arc, Cleopatra, Marie Curie, Louisa May Alcott, Clara Barton, Amelia Earhart, Zelma Watson George, Laura Ingalls Wilder, Helen Keller, Eleanor Anna Roosevelt and Margaret Thatcher. Some famous woman of the twentieth century include: Jane Goodall, Sandra Day O´Connor, Hilary Rodham Clinton, Rosa Park, Jacqueline Kennedy, Billie Jean King, Coco Chanel, Mother Teresa and Oprah Winfrey.
Lastly, I will tell you what not to expect from the feminine psyche.
1) Don´t expect her to say I´m sorry first.
2) Don´t expect her to tell you why she is crying, sad or in a bad mood.
3) Don´t her expect her not to cry, scream or not grab onto you when you are watching a sad, sappy or scary movie.
4) Don´t expect her to stop talking until she is finished explaining her feelings to you.
5) Don´t expect instant forgiveness if the hurt is deep.
6) Don´t expect to stop hugging or holding her until she pulls away.
7) Don´t expect sex every time, set a romantic stage and she won´t say no.
8) If you need space, directions or time with your buddies, don´t expect her to understand unless you give her equal time with her girlfriends.
9) Don´t expect instant passion, remember woman warm up like an iron while men turn on like a light bulb.
10) Don´t expect to understand everything she does or says.
Remember that compliments, presents and tender affection are good communication tools. Honesty, trust and emotional support build a solid base for any relationship.
Women sometimes today take on the masculine role of main support and career, while the man becomes the caretaker of the home and children. This changes these dynamics somewhat, but not entirely.
To understand the social changes taking place in our society, you need to understand that it is a re-balance of nature. Whenever something is not is harmony, in time change will happen.
The overall picture of our planet reflects imbalance. Power, greed and dominance of others are the prevailing energies. The need for a re-balance can happen as the feminine psyche raises our consciousness with the philosophy of nurturing, caring and sharing with others.
This can offer harmony, peace and a world where all human beings, no matter what gender will hold the hope for humankind to love one another.
Remember that fear holds you back, while faith moves you forward. My website and blog are: michelemarietate.com
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