Did Cho-Seung Hui Feel Unloved?
Judy Ramsook
April 18, 2007
By now we all have an idea of what the Virginia Tech Massacre shooter was like: Anti social or difficult to converse with, and if one were to read his plays online, he seemed to have had problems with men in authoritative or powerful positions, thrown in to the mix is also a little violence.
But beneath all this, was there something else no one else spotted. Like maybe he did not receive the family love and affection that would propel him to want to socialize with his fellow human beings and feel better about himself?
For we have heard about what a troubled person he was, and what a loner he seemed to be also, but apart from all this, we have heard one more thing too. Not about him, but about his sister, the one who attended Princeton University.
The thing is, the more one keeps hearing about all the sacrifice Cho’s parents may have made to put his sister through that particular university, can one get the impression that maybe, just maybe his family’s attention was focused more on her, Cho’s sister?
Most parents who have two or more kids will swear until tomorrow comes that they love their kids equally, but we all know this is not always the case. For everyone, even the most loving parent has his/her favourites.
Most times on the homefront, there is no such thing as equal love. Not when one has a sibling who seems to be receiving more attention than say another kid in the household. Something that can have a lasting effect on the child who is not deemed the favourite.
For the kid who is not the favourite is receiving way less attention than his/her much loved sibling. So much so, that the less loved kid may entertain negative thoughts about himself and the people around him/her.
And if this trend of a lack of attention continues, and the kid who feels unloved goes out there into society, he/she just might take some of that negativity with him/her. Not everyone in the world who feels unloved is strong enough to cope with it. But some people handle things differently.
Some people who feel this way shut themselves off from the people around them while others may still try to reach out every now and again. They do not give up on trying to feel loved.
Writer’s Note: The above article was not meant to offend the immediate family members of Cho- Seung Hui. At the same time, it does not excuse him from killing and wounding all those students and four professors at Virginia Tech.
But beneath all this, was there something else no one else spotted. Like maybe he did not receive the family love and affection that would propel him to want to socialize with his fellow human beings and feel better about himself?
For we have heard about what a troubled person he was, and what a loner he seemed to be also, but apart from all this, we have heard one more thing too. Not about him, but about his sister, the one who attended Princeton University.
The thing is, the more one keeps hearing about all the sacrifice Cho’s parents may have made to put his sister through that particular university, can one get the impression that maybe, just maybe his family’s attention was focused more on her, Cho’s sister?
Most parents who have two or more kids will swear until tomorrow comes that they love their kids equally, but we all know this is not always the case. For everyone, even the most loving parent has his/her favourites.
Most times on the homefront, there is no such thing as equal love. Not when one has a sibling who seems to be receiving more attention than say another kid in the household. Something that can have a lasting effect on the child who is not deemed the favourite.
For the kid who is not the favourite is receiving way less attention than his/her much loved sibling. So much so, that the less loved kid may entertain negative thoughts about himself and the people around him/her.
And if this trend of a lack of attention continues, and the kid who feels unloved goes out there into society, he/she just might take some of that negativity with him/her. Not everyone in the world who feels unloved is strong enough to cope with it. But some people handle things differently.
Some people who feel this way shut themselves off from the people around them while others may still try to reach out every now and again. They do not give up on trying to feel loved.
Writer’s Note: The above article was not meant to offend the immediate family members of Cho- Seung Hui. At the same time, it does not excuse him from killing and wounding all those students and four professors at Virginia Tech.
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