3 Ways to Make Your Long Distance Relationship Work
Dan and Jennifer
April 02, 2007
Long distance relationships can be quite a challenge. The most important advice that I have to offer is that if you're going to attempt a long distance relationship, be completely honest with each other about your expectations, make sure that you live your own life when your apart, and check your jealousy at the door.
First, it's very important to keep your own friends and social circle and that you don't sit by the phone waiting for him to call. That's the quickest way to go mad. Trust me; I dated a guy in the military who was stationed in Iraq . I lived by the phone for several months and was completely miserable the entire time.
The second thing that can kill a log distance relationship is jealousy . If you're constantly worried about what he's doing or who he's with, again, you'll drive yourself mad.
Recognize that we are social beings and we all crave companionship and closeness with another human being. Is it really reasonable to ask either of you to remain exclusive, when you're so far apart? To ask each other to be lonely and miserable when you aren't together?
Many people will disagree with me, but I don't feel that a long distance relationship should be exclusive. You're only setting each other up to fail or to at least be lonely. When you're ready to truly be exclusive with one another - move closer so that you can really be together.
Lastly, be completely honest with one another in a compassionate and empathetic way. Tell the truth about how you're feeling, but make it about how you're feeling, not what the other person is or is not doing. Remember, you are the only one responsible for your feelings and your actions. No one else can make you feel a certain way or behave in a certain way.
In summary:
If you want to have a successful long distance relationship,
Keep your own friends and social circle
Check your jealousy at the door
Be completely honest about your expectations and feelings
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Copyright 2007, AskDanAndJennifer.com, "Dating, Relationships, Love, and Sex - Get Your Questions Answered!" - All rights reserved.
First, it's very important to keep your own friends and social circle and that you don't sit by the phone waiting for him to call. That's the quickest way to go mad. Trust me; I dated a guy in the military who was stationed in Iraq . I lived by the phone for several months and was completely miserable the entire time.
The second thing that can kill a log distance relationship is jealousy . If you're constantly worried about what he's doing or who he's with, again, you'll drive yourself mad.
Recognize that we are social beings and we all crave companionship and closeness with another human being. Is it really reasonable to ask either of you to remain exclusive, when you're so far apart? To ask each other to be lonely and miserable when you aren't together?
Many people will disagree with me, but I don't feel that a long distance relationship should be exclusive. You're only setting each other up to fail or to at least be lonely. When you're ready to truly be exclusive with one another - move closer so that you can really be together.
Lastly, be completely honest with one another in a compassionate and empathetic way. Tell the truth about how you're feeling, but make it about how you're feeling, not what the other person is or is not doing. Remember, you are the only one responsible for your feelings and your actions. No one else can make you feel a certain way or behave in a certain way.
In summary:
If you want to have a successful long distance relationship,
Keep your own friends and social circle
Check your jealousy at the door
Be completely honest about your expectations and feelings
Wait. Get more great articles like this one at www.AskDanAndJennifer.com.
Copyright 2007, AskDanAndJennifer.com, "Dating, Relationships, Love, and Sex - Get Your Questions Answered!" - All rights reserved.
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