Publicizing An Ex Lover's Imperfections, Would You Do It?
Judy Ramsook
January 04, 2007
When I started reading Jennifer Weiner’s book, ‘Good In Bed’ I knew it was about a full figure, overweight young woman who had been wronged by her former boyfriend/lover. In the book, this woman’s ex boyfriend is a columnist. As I continued to peruse this page turner, I surmised what a horrible thing this person’s ex lover had done by writing intimate details about what it is like to love a large or full figure woman.
Worst of all, the accounts were published for all to see. Fast forward to the age of the internet blog where writers of such online diaries write about details of their personal as well as social lives.
And if some of them choose to, yes, they might also write about intimate details of relationships past. Sexually explicit details, that are available for millions of internet surfers to view.
The entire concept made me shudder to think that some people would disrespect someone’s privacy in such a manner. Something that made me ponder the question, how many of you internet bloggers would actually betray an ex lover’s privacy?
For as we all know, actions have consequences. No one might want to sit back quietly as details of his/her shortcomings, flaws or imperfections in the bedroom department are placed on the internet. An internet that has millions of users/readers. For the owner of the blog, when this sort of thing is done, is it seen as a selfish act on the part of the blogger?
It can be, because at the time of such a posting, the blogger is thinking of the way he/she feels about being dumped. This person could be angry, sad, depressed and is thinking about the way he/she is feeling, forgetting for the moment that there were two people involved in that particular relationship, her/himself and the person about whom he/she is writing about in that blog.
In so doing, should some people be cautious when embarking on a relationship with a person who has a blog, access to internet websites he/she writes articles/columns for, or is a radio/television personality with a microphone?
People who take up romantic relationships with others do so because a certain amount of trust is expected. Not betrayal when certain aspects of the relationship turn sour.
Moreover, most individuals who bring parts of their personal lives to the public might consult the other party in the romantic association before doing so. Others who do not, might find themselves at the other end of some kind of lawsuit or another.
On a personal note, whether someone is angry, sad or depressed upon breaking up with his/her romantic partner, caution should be exercised when placing that blog, article or column on the internet for all to see.
The name and reputation of your ex lover are at stake. And it might cause others to shy away from you, the blogger, columnist or public personality if they think you will write or speak of them when things turn bad.
Plus, if you were in your ex lover’s position, you would not like it if he/she wrote or talked about you in a public forum, would you? Or would you just not care?
Worst of all, the accounts were published for all to see. Fast forward to the age of the internet blog where writers of such online diaries write about details of their personal as well as social lives.
And if some of them choose to, yes, they might also write about intimate details of relationships past. Sexually explicit details, that are available for millions of internet surfers to view.
The entire concept made me shudder to think that some people would disrespect someone’s privacy in such a manner. Something that made me ponder the question, how many of you internet bloggers would actually betray an ex lover’s privacy?
For as we all know, actions have consequences. No one might want to sit back quietly as details of his/her shortcomings, flaws or imperfections in the bedroom department are placed on the internet. An internet that has millions of users/readers. For the owner of the blog, when this sort of thing is done, is it seen as a selfish act on the part of the blogger?
It can be, because at the time of such a posting, the blogger is thinking of the way he/she feels about being dumped. This person could be angry, sad, depressed and is thinking about the way he/she is feeling, forgetting for the moment that there were two people involved in that particular relationship, her/himself and the person about whom he/she is writing about in that blog.
In so doing, should some people be cautious when embarking on a relationship with a person who has a blog, access to internet websites he/she writes articles/columns for, or is a radio/television personality with a microphone?
People who take up romantic relationships with others do so because a certain amount of trust is expected. Not betrayal when certain aspects of the relationship turn sour.
Moreover, most individuals who bring parts of their personal lives to the public might consult the other party in the romantic association before doing so. Others who do not, might find themselves at the other end of some kind of lawsuit or another.
On a personal note, whether someone is angry, sad or depressed upon breaking up with his/her romantic partner, caution should be exercised when placing that blog, article or column on the internet for all to see.
The name and reputation of your ex lover are at stake. And it might cause others to shy away from you, the blogger, columnist or public personality if they think you will write or speak of them when things turn bad.
Plus, if you were in your ex lover’s position, you would not like it if he/she wrote or talked about you in a public forum, would you? Or would you just not care?
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