Attracting Women - How To Get Over Your Approach Anxiety
Marc Sandford
February 26, 2010
Do you turn into a quivering mass of jelly at the sight of an attractive woman? Does your blood pressure shoot through the roof and your brain cease to function?
Perhaps you find that when you're with people you already know, you're never at a loss for words. But when dealing with an attractive woman, you can't even put two words together. Your strategy in these instances is either to make a pathetic attempt or not even try.
If this sounds familiar to you, don't be too hard on yourself. Men all over the world behave similarly at the sight of an attractive woman. The intensity of this response depends on the individual.
Those who seem to be truly gifted at meeting women have been at it for a very long time. Always keep in mind that meeting women is nothing more than a skill. Some suggestions to improve your 'game':
1.) You'll want to seem self assured and relaxed. This can't be done without a smile and behaving in a manner that seems natural. Your posture should be good which means that you must keep your back erect when walking and standing.
Do not take quick small steps while walking. Instead, try to do it like you own the space around you. Speak loud and clear so that she has no difficulty hearing you.
If you want to appear relaxed you should be calm on the inside. If your heart and pulse are racing in high gear, you will seem nervous. In such a state you'll make mistakes such as cutting her off while she is speaking. You could even find yourself saying inappropriate things that are normally out of character for you. Anxiousness has a way of making us do things that we come to regret later on.
2.) Steer clear of the cliches seen in the movies and never use pick up lines. This will change you from the person you truly are into a complete joke. The usual compliments about how fantastic her hair, smile, etc are is to be avoided.
To break the ice, try making an observation regarding the environment. She may possess something on her person that may clue you in on one of her interests.
Question her about this and then be sure to listen to what she has to say. The content of her answers will give you a chance to question her further. When you notice things that you have in common, you can now add to the conversation. Bear in mind that what you say is secondary to how you say it. It's essential to project friendliness as well as confidence.
3.) Doing all of the above may seem a very tall order for you. However, meeting and attracting women is a social skill and will require effort and time to master. Therefore you will have to learn it one step at a time.
Make a habit of practicing this skill throughout your day whenever opportunity presents. Whether you are waiting in line at a store, or riding in an elevator. If you're in a situation where both of you are waiting, start conversing with the lady next to you.
Do not think about whether or not to do it, just talk. After doing this for several weeks you'll be able to meet women in a way that is effortless and natural.
Recently broken up? Get free advice on how to get your girl back and find out if there's anything magical about this controversial product – read The Magic of Making Up review.
Perhaps you find that when you're with people you already know, you're never at a loss for words. But when dealing with an attractive woman, you can't even put two words together. Your strategy in these instances is either to make a pathetic attempt or not even try.
If this sounds familiar to you, don't be too hard on yourself. Men all over the world behave similarly at the sight of an attractive woman. The intensity of this response depends on the individual.
Those who seem to be truly gifted at meeting women have been at it for a very long time. Always keep in mind that meeting women is nothing more than a skill. Some suggestions to improve your 'game':
1.) You'll want to seem self assured and relaxed. This can't be done without a smile and behaving in a manner that seems natural. Your posture should be good which means that you must keep your back erect when walking and standing.
Do not take quick small steps while walking. Instead, try to do it like you own the space around you. Speak loud and clear so that she has no difficulty hearing you.
If you want to appear relaxed you should be calm on the inside. If your heart and pulse are racing in high gear, you will seem nervous. In such a state you'll make mistakes such as cutting her off while she is speaking. You could even find yourself saying inappropriate things that are normally out of character for you. Anxiousness has a way of making us do things that we come to regret later on.
2.) Steer clear of the cliches seen in the movies and never use pick up lines. This will change you from the person you truly are into a complete joke. The usual compliments about how fantastic her hair, smile, etc are is to be avoided.
To break the ice, try making an observation regarding the environment. She may possess something on her person that may clue you in on one of her interests.
Question her about this and then be sure to listen to what she has to say. The content of her answers will give you a chance to question her further. When you notice things that you have in common, you can now add to the conversation. Bear in mind that what you say is secondary to how you say it. It's essential to project friendliness as well as confidence.
3.) Doing all of the above may seem a very tall order for you. However, meeting and attracting women is a social skill and will require effort and time to master. Therefore you will have to learn it one step at a time.
Make a habit of practicing this skill throughout your day whenever opportunity presents. Whether you are waiting in line at a store, or riding in an elevator. If you're in a situation where both of you are waiting, start conversing with the lady next to you.
Do not think about whether or not to do it, just talk. After doing this for several weeks you'll be able to meet women in a way that is effortless and natural.
Recently broken up? Get free advice on how to get your girl back and find out if there's anything magical about this controversial product – read The Magic of Making Up review.
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