Were Your Ex Mate's Friends Also Your Friends?

When most people are in love, they are elated to such a degree that they are willing to do anything (within reason of course) to please his/her mate. He/she might find him/herself going to all the places his/her mate likes and so on. One gets the idea.

While all this bliss is being enjoyed though, one’s friends may also play a vital role, or not. This is something that has occurred to many people and as this is being written, it is most likely still happening to many individuals. Sometimes, when the new love in one’s life is bringing so much happiness to his/her new mate, that new mate might find him/herself spending more time with his/her mate’s friends rather than his/her own.

Most of us have probably done this at some point in our love lives. For when we are trying to get to know the new person in our lives a little better, a good way to reinforce this is to spend time with him/her and other people who also know him/her. What happens though when the relationship goes sour? Do your ex mate’s friends stick around?

Unfortunately, they do not. If the one who was spending more time with his/her ex mate’s friends than his/her own, so much so, that he/she neglected his/her own friends that by the time the break up occurs, he/she will be all alone with his/her broken heart

This is something that can leave a trail of anger and bitterness behind because the one who was doing all the things he/she could do to please his/her former mate did so for a reason. He/she wanted the association to last, not the opposite.

Now he/she finds him/herself minus a mate and a few friends as well, his/her own friends. Is there anything one can do to prevent this from happening? One might ask.

It’s not impossible, but one can try to vary it with the friends.

Maybe one occasion can be spent with one’s friends and another with the other mate’s friends and so on.

It can be difficult to accomplish though because what happens is one ends up spending more time with the other mate’s friends. It’s worth a try to vary it so if the relationship ends in a break up type situation, you won’t find yourself saying something like, his/her friends were my friends.