Maybe Online Dating Isn't For Everyone
Judy Ramsook
July 27, 2009
I have always believed that trust is something that should be earned over time. Because it requires time. Time to see if you feel comfortable and safe enough with that person to trust him/her.
And when the internet was gaining popularity in the mid to late 90s up to the present, something else started happening. There were programs known as online chat rooms and instant messenger ones that gained popularity as well.
A thought provoking thing was also occurring. Some young girls and women who chatted with people they came across in a few of those chat rooms decided to meet in person. Sometimes these meetings worked out well, and other times some of those girls and young women ended up being assaulted, killed, maimed or physically hurt. And for a while, due to the negative aspects of these meetings, I did not want to enter the online dating realm.
Who can you trust when just about anyone can hide behind a user name, computer and an internet chat room?
But I would succumb. Because the guys I tried to date out here in the real world, not the virtual one, were not really working out for me.
And after looking at a few dating websites´ commercials, I thought I would give it a try. After all, after you sign up, submit a photo and fill out a questionnaire, these websites are supposed to fix you up with someone you´re most compatible with, right?
I was in for a little surprise. The first guy I communicated with on there seemed all right, and after the second date, I thought this might be the one.
I did not hear from him for a couple days so (ignoring the if he doesn´t call you it means he´s not into you rule) I got in touch with him and asked if something was wrong? He answered with. It´s nothing personal, but he did not get any chemistry with me.
When it´s a matter of chemistry, it is personal, isn´t it?
Date number two. First of all, I was fooled by the online photo. Because the online photo of this guy made him seem healthier. Surprised to see that was not the case when I did meet him in person, he told me most of the things a guy might tell a woman if all he wants to do is get her in his b_d.
Guys number three and four were more or less the same. But they got to the point right away, like on the first date. They wanted to take me to their place to see if we were sexually compatible.
I have paused the dating scene for now. I might never find the one I am looking for and like someone told me, hey, maybe love and longterm relationships aren´t for everyone.
As for the trust issue. I think I am less trusting now than I was before I began dating guys online. If all they´re looking for is a quick s_x fix, they definitely had the wrong girl when they decided to go out with me.
If online dating has worked for you or anyone reading this, good for you and I wish you well.
And when the internet was gaining popularity in the mid to late 90s up to the present, something else started happening. There were programs known as online chat rooms and instant messenger ones that gained popularity as well.
A thought provoking thing was also occurring. Some young girls and women who chatted with people they came across in a few of those chat rooms decided to meet in person. Sometimes these meetings worked out well, and other times some of those girls and young women ended up being assaulted, killed, maimed or physically hurt. And for a while, due to the negative aspects of these meetings, I did not want to enter the online dating realm.
Who can you trust when just about anyone can hide behind a user name, computer and an internet chat room?
But I would succumb. Because the guys I tried to date out here in the real world, not the virtual one, were not really working out for me.
And after looking at a few dating websites´ commercials, I thought I would give it a try. After all, after you sign up, submit a photo and fill out a questionnaire, these websites are supposed to fix you up with someone you´re most compatible with, right?
I was in for a little surprise. The first guy I communicated with on there seemed all right, and after the second date, I thought this might be the one.
I did not hear from him for a couple days so (ignoring the if he doesn´t call you it means he´s not into you rule) I got in touch with him and asked if something was wrong? He answered with. It´s nothing personal, but he did not get any chemistry with me.
When it´s a matter of chemistry, it is personal, isn´t it?
Date number two. First of all, I was fooled by the online photo. Because the online photo of this guy made him seem healthier. Surprised to see that was not the case when I did meet him in person, he told me most of the things a guy might tell a woman if all he wants to do is get her in his b_d.
Guys number three and four were more or less the same. But they got to the point right away, like on the first date. They wanted to take me to their place to see if we were sexually compatible.
I have paused the dating scene for now. I might never find the one I am looking for and like someone told me, hey, maybe love and longterm relationships aren´t for everyone.
As for the trust issue. I think I am less trusting now than I was before I began dating guys online. If all they´re looking for is a quick s_x fix, they definitely had the wrong girl when they decided to go out with me.
If online dating has worked for you or anyone reading this, good for you and I wish you well.
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