Women and Liars
Melissa Smith-Gay
April 08, 2009
Imagine growing up with the fantasies of thousands of fairytales that send your heart pitter pat. As girls we grow up with stories that relate men to knights and price charming alike and in reality there is truly no such thing. We wind up with boys whom claim to be men but their actions are quite far from chivalrous. How hard is it in this day in age to find men who know how to be men? Most women would settle for the cowboyish type that would ride in on their horse and throw their jackets on the ground where their lady would not step in the water puddle, heck we would settle for a guy that would just point out the water puddle or pull us aside from it as to where we wouldn´t step in it.
Where are all of the good guys at? The last few men that my friends or I have encountered have been rather losers or liars. What most guys don´t realize is that all we want is honesty. Imagine this scenario you were dating a guy and he wasn´t honest with you, hmm think. He lied about things that he never should have things that would serve as no importance. His friends kept getting involved and major issues such as having you cover for him at work….yes you worked together mistake number one. He lied about his children and claimed he had one older and one younger in real life he has two young children. That wouldn´t have mattered. Why lie? What was the purpose of such lies? His friends kept saying he cares he cares be patient with him. Blah, blah, blah. I see several friends that have met this type of guy and no, it was not the same guy on more than one occasion. Do you guys get together and come up with these stories? Are you really that miserable and bored with your lives that you have to mess with the feelings of others? It is unfortunate that some guys get their jollies off of hurting kind and loving women and you make it harder on the next man that they get involved with. A friend of mine is reading a book it is about men loving "bitches". I would rather not be a bitch and I am not a push over either. Can´t we find some happy in between?
In reality what would have happened with these guys that lie to good women is they would have maybe actually met a really good women, someone who could love them and support them as individuals. A real woman doesn´t have to call her man 50 times in a day to check up on him….that is obsession not love and she does not trust you. A real woman will not stalk you at your jobs because she is secure enough in herself. A real woman will take care of all business that is needed, will help you and can still make you feel like a man.
My girlfriends and I have only wanted one key thing from a man and that is honesty. I seriously can not
stress that enough. Two people can work through anything together if you love one another enough and clearly if you cannot be honest they do not love you. I know as do my friends that, of which might not be true, guys, think that if they lie it will spare your feelings but in the end they are afraid that you couldn´t accept the truth and instead of hurting you they avoid the situation with lies and are afraid of being left or rejected.
There is nothing we can do to make this different it lies with the liar. He can only make himself better and we have to walk away. Most men that lose a good girl eventually wants her back because he feels bad for what he did and he realizes what he lost. It has happened with every boyfriend I ever had and I have seen it time and time again with my friends. Maybe I am rationalizing but I am tired of seeing girls hurt over guys who are not comfortable with themselves. Where do you find the good men and are they only a dime a dozen? Maybe we are too picky. We want a man to have a job, we want him not to be a momma´s boy and we want a man who will open doors for us and treat us like a lady and a freak in the bedroom what is so hard with that. Why are boys that are good in bed, bad boys and all the good boys suck in bed? Get it together guys and we will be happy. Happiness for a girl is easy. Bring us flowers once in a blue moon even if you just pull off and pick one so what if it was a weed. Tell us how nice we look and not when you want something and don´t mislead us. Life can be great with just the simplest things we don´t need flashy things or mink coats all we want is to be accepted and loved and we don´t want to be a bitch to get it.
Where are all of the good guys at? The last few men that my friends or I have encountered have been rather losers or liars. What most guys don´t realize is that all we want is honesty. Imagine this scenario you were dating a guy and he wasn´t honest with you, hmm think. He lied about things that he never should have things that would serve as no importance. His friends kept getting involved and major issues such as having you cover for him at work….yes you worked together mistake number one. He lied about his children and claimed he had one older and one younger in real life he has two young children. That wouldn´t have mattered. Why lie? What was the purpose of such lies? His friends kept saying he cares he cares be patient with him. Blah, blah, blah. I see several friends that have met this type of guy and no, it was not the same guy on more than one occasion. Do you guys get together and come up with these stories? Are you really that miserable and bored with your lives that you have to mess with the feelings of others? It is unfortunate that some guys get their jollies off of hurting kind and loving women and you make it harder on the next man that they get involved with. A friend of mine is reading a book it is about men loving "bitches". I would rather not be a bitch and I am not a push over either. Can´t we find some happy in between?
In reality what would have happened with these guys that lie to good women is they would have maybe actually met a really good women, someone who could love them and support them as individuals. A real woman doesn´t have to call her man 50 times in a day to check up on him….that is obsession not love and she does not trust you. A real woman will not stalk you at your jobs because she is secure enough in herself. A real woman will take care of all business that is needed, will help you and can still make you feel like a man.
My girlfriends and I have only wanted one key thing from a man and that is honesty. I seriously can not
stress that enough. Two people can work through anything together if you love one another enough and clearly if you cannot be honest they do not love you. I know as do my friends that, of which might not be true, guys, think that if they lie it will spare your feelings but in the end they are afraid that you couldn´t accept the truth and instead of hurting you they avoid the situation with lies and are afraid of being left or rejected.
There is nothing we can do to make this different it lies with the liar. He can only make himself better and we have to walk away. Most men that lose a good girl eventually wants her back because he feels bad for what he did and he realizes what he lost. It has happened with every boyfriend I ever had and I have seen it time and time again with my friends. Maybe I am rationalizing but I am tired of seeing girls hurt over guys who are not comfortable with themselves. Where do you find the good men and are they only a dime a dozen? Maybe we are too picky. We want a man to have a job, we want him not to be a momma´s boy and we want a man who will open doors for us and treat us like a lady and a freak in the bedroom what is so hard with that. Why are boys that are good in bed, bad boys and all the good boys suck in bed? Get it together guys and we will be happy. Happiness for a girl is easy. Bring us flowers once in a blue moon even if you just pull off and pick one so what if it was a weed. Tell us how nice we look and not when you want something and don´t mislead us. Life can be great with just the simplest things we don´t need flashy things or mink coats all we want is to be accepted and loved and we don´t want to be a bitch to get it.