Two Different Ways to Build Confidence and Enjoy Life
Hani Al-Qasem
March 17, 2009
"Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy."
Dale Carnegie
When you have the necessary knowledge and know-how on ways to become self confident, all that remains is for you to take consistent action.
By being committed to taking action daily or whenever the need arises, you will have all the self confidence that you want, and more.
When you combine your commitment with taking persistent action, by following through with all that you have learned you will have a recipe for
becoming a more confident you.
I ask you to make a personal pledge today to adopt the learning and taking action habits.
These habits will serve you well. They will allow you to accomplish many great things during your lifetime. And in due course the way you think and feel about yourself will dramatically improve.
So, rather than just thinking about this, let's consider 2 ways you can get busy to take action to breed that self confidence:
1. Take it easy: A friend of mine used to say, "Chill out" whenever she felt uptight and under confident about a particular thing that she had to do.
Initially I did not understand it. But after a while, I took on board what she meant. If you take everything too seriously you will feel overwhelmed and less confident of your abilities to perform well.
If you relax or chill out, you will accomplish more, and in this lighter frame of mind you will notice that you actually have more self confidence that you had previously thought.
2. Ignore and laugh at what you read in the tabloids: Let me put it another way: Ignore anything you see that relate to what they call the' perfect body'.
So what is the perfect body? Skinny? Very skinny? Skin and bones?
Is this how we are supposed to judge people? In my opinion, we judge people not by the frame of their body, rather by the frame of their mind.
Sincere people do not judge others by the body that the mind lives in. They see the mind, the smile, the eyes, and the real person that you are.
Genuine people are more likely to enjoy your company because you are friendly, kind and considerate, conscientious and courteous.
Be confident in that knowledge.
Many unconfident people hold themselves back and away from approaching others or making themselves approachable by others because they are unconfident about their bodies in one way or another.
Let go of that unconfident feeling.
Look at your body in front of a mirror as often as you can. Conjure up a Hollywood smile whilst looking up and down from the top of your head to the tip of your toes or shoes, saying, "Yes" and walk away and continue with the rest of your day.
Do that as many times as possible and for as long as possible whilst genuinely holding that Hollywood smile. It is imperative that you walk away before the smile starts to fade. If you start with once a day for 1 second, that's better than not doing it at all.
Smile, laugh and lighten up. Don't take things too seriously and enjoy the way you feel and look. Enjoy life more, build on your self confidence, and you will feel more appealing and attractive from within.
Remember, your inner world creates your outer world.
Dale Carnegie
When you have the necessary knowledge and know-how on ways to become self confident, all that remains is for you to take consistent action.
By being committed to taking action daily or whenever the need arises, you will have all the self confidence that you want, and more.
When you combine your commitment with taking persistent action, by following through with all that you have learned you will have a recipe for
becoming a more confident you.
I ask you to make a personal pledge today to adopt the learning and taking action habits.
These habits will serve you well. They will allow you to accomplish many great things during your lifetime. And in due course the way you think and feel about yourself will dramatically improve.
So, rather than just thinking about this, let's consider 2 ways you can get busy to take action to breed that self confidence:
1. Take it easy: A friend of mine used to say, "Chill out" whenever she felt uptight and under confident about a particular thing that she had to do.
Initially I did not understand it. But after a while, I took on board what she meant. If you take everything too seriously you will feel overwhelmed and less confident of your abilities to perform well.
If you relax or chill out, you will accomplish more, and in this lighter frame of mind you will notice that you actually have more self confidence that you had previously thought.
2. Ignore and laugh at what you read in the tabloids: Let me put it another way: Ignore anything you see that relate to what they call the' perfect body'.
So what is the perfect body? Skinny? Very skinny? Skin and bones?
Is this how we are supposed to judge people? In my opinion, we judge people not by the frame of their body, rather by the frame of their mind.
Sincere people do not judge others by the body that the mind lives in. They see the mind, the smile, the eyes, and the real person that you are.
Genuine people are more likely to enjoy your company because you are friendly, kind and considerate, conscientious and courteous.
Be confident in that knowledge.
Many unconfident people hold themselves back and away from approaching others or making themselves approachable by others because they are unconfident about their bodies in one way or another.
Let go of that unconfident feeling.
Look at your body in front of a mirror as often as you can. Conjure up a Hollywood smile whilst looking up and down from the top of your head to the tip of your toes or shoes, saying, "Yes" and walk away and continue with the rest of your day.
Do that as many times as possible and for as long as possible whilst genuinely holding that Hollywood smile. It is imperative that you walk away before the smile starts to fade. If you start with once a day for 1 second, that's better than not doing it at all.
Smile, laugh and lighten up. Don't take things too seriously and enjoy the way you feel and look. Enjoy life more, build on your self confidence, and you will feel more appealing and attractive from within.
Remember, your inner world creates your outer world.