Creating Trust In A Relationship For A Lifetime Of Love
Marc Sandford
December 31, 2008
Most of us think we know what makes a relationship last but we often get it wrong. For example, did you know that constantly trying to spice up your relationship isn't necessary? Reliability has a greater impact than variety in your relationship. The following 8 tips will solidify the bond with your partner by laying down a strong foundation of trust.
1.) As mentioned before in the introduction, predictability is very important. This is certainly contrary to the common idea that you have to keep the excitement up in order to keep your partner interested. A dash of spice once in a while will help, but the true foundation of a long relationship is trust. Trust means having faith that your partner will be there through good times and bad. Trust like this is made by being reliable every day of the week.
2.) Remember that what you say should always match your body language. If you say that you're ok with something that your partner has done but you've got a scowl on your face, he or she won't be fooled by this. You should never hold back on what you really mean, because this isn't trust. Trust is built when you say what you mean and the message matches your words.
3.) Also be careful that your words match your actions. In this case, body language is not what I'm talking about. If you do something that is completely at odds with what you've said, you will have lost credibility. Lack of credibility will quickly chip away all trust in a relationship.
4.) Always maintain a deep belief in your partner's competence. Yes, we all have our strengths and weaknesses, but you must never doubt that your partner is a competent human being. Contempt is a sure way to demolish the trust in your relationship.
5.) Never be secretive. Secrets always have a way of being found out with time. After finding out, your partner will continually wonder about other secrets that you possess. Building up trust takes time while secrets can completely undo trust.
6.) It is crucial to make your needs known to your partner. He or she shouldn't have to puzzle over what you need. Balance is crucial because too much self centeredness is as bad as extreme selflessness. Not asserting your needs doesn't allow your partner any chance to do some giving.
7.) You shouldn't be afraid about saying no. A partner that expresses his or her needs is a natural thing to do. But sometimes saying yes isn't appropriate. You won't be taken seriously if you are always yielding. Respect is vital in building trust in a relationship.
8.) You shouldn't be afraid of difficulty, turmoil, or crisis. No relationship is immune from problems. When the problem has been resolved, your relationship becomes stronger and experiences growth.
Building trust is not always easy. It's a long term effort because trust takes time. It has to be earned. But the long term benefits of a strong relationship is worth putting in the extra effort.
Separated recently? Get free advice on how to survive a breakup and find out if this product can help you - The Magic of Making Up.
1.) As mentioned before in the introduction, predictability is very important. This is certainly contrary to the common idea that you have to keep the excitement up in order to keep your partner interested. A dash of spice once in a while will help, but the true foundation of a long relationship is trust. Trust means having faith that your partner will be there through good times and bad. Trust like this is made by being reliable every day of the week.
2.) Remember that what you say should always match your body language. If you say that you're ok with something that your partner has done but you've got a scowl on your face, he or she won't be fooled by this. You should never hold back on what you really mean, because this isn't trust. Trust is built when you say what you mean and the message matches your words.
3.) Also be careful that your words match your actions. In this case, body language is not what I'm talking about. If you do something that is completely at odds with what you've said, you will have lost credibility. Lack of credibility will quickly chip away all trust in a relationship.
4.) Always maintain a deep belief in your partner's competence. Yes, we all have our strengths and weaknesses, but you must never doubt that your partner is a competent human being. Contempt is a sure way to demolish the trust in your relationship.
5.) Never be secretive. Secrets always have a way of being found out with time. After finding out, your partner will continually wonder about other secrets that you possess. Building up trust takes time while secrets can completely undo trust.
6.) It is crucial to make your needs known to your partner. He or she shouldn't have to puzzle over what you need. Balance is crucial because too much self centeredness is as bad as extreme selflessness. Not asserting your needs doesn't allow your partner any chance to do some giving.
7.) You shouldn't be afraid about saying no. A partner that expresses his or her needs is a natural thing to do. But sometimes saying yes isn't appropriate. You won't be taken seriously if you are always yielding. Respect is vital in building trust in a relationship.
8.) You shouldn't be afraid of difficulty, turmoil, or crisis. No relationship is immune from problems. When the problem has been resolved, your relationship becomes stronger and experiences growth.
Building trust is not always easy. It's a long term effort because trust takes time. It has to be earned. But the long term benefits of a strong relationship is worth putting in the extra effort.
Separated recently? Get free advice on how to survive a breakup and find out if this product can help you - The Magic of Making Up.