Improve Family Relationships
Linda Weaver Clarke
January 08, 2008
Family is important. It takes commitment and hard work to improve family relationships. With all the negative influences around us, we struggle to hold our families together. But itīs a battle that is well worth it.
Family must come first and foremost before anything else, even before our career. "No other success can compensate for failure in the home. The poorest shack in which love prevails over a united family is of greater value to God and future humanity than any other riches." David O. McKay
I believe that love, communication, and respect go a long way. I know of five rules that can improve relationships and make a family closer.
1. Parents and children must "show" love by helping each other. Giving service and sharing is what itīs all about.
2. Take time for one another by going on dates with your spouse or having family outings. Itīs amazing what a picnic can do for a family.
3. Communicate with each other and take time to listen. Richard L. Evans said, "If only we could feel we have been heard! If only we would listen when we should!"
4. Show respect to each family member. Never demean another person.
5. Pray together. Abraham Lincoln said, "I remember my motherīs prayers and they have always followed me. They have clung to me all my life."
Money, wealth, and great careers shouldnīt come before family. Money wonīt buy your familyīs love or happiness. Eugene Hansen said, "I learned money and material possessions are not the keys to happiness and success. Even with the constant financial challenge, we still had a good life. There was love in the home. Home was the place where we wanted to be. We did have two very significant items: we had a piano and we had a bookcase. How significant those two somewhat simple possessions were in the development of productive talents and interests so important in our early years."
What our children need is love. Material objects will never replace affection or our absence. "We have been so anxious to give our children what we didnīt have that we have neglected to give them what we did have." Author Unknown.
The relationship between husband and wife is important, also. It should not be neglected. Marriage is a sacred bond between man and woman. We must always work on our relationship. Never embarrass or hurt the feelings of our marriage partner intentionally. Build up the otherīs self-esteem. Treat your partner with respect. Children watch, listen, mimic and follow in our footsteps. They learn quickly. When we show lack of respect to our partner, so will they.
We have to work at marriage. Itīs a lifetime commitment. Mary Stewart Cutting said, "A woman can stand anything but being forgotten, not being needed."
Richard L. Evans said, "All things need watching, working at, caring for, and marriage is no exception. Marriage is not something to be indifferently treated or abused, or something that simply takes care of itself. All things need attention, care and concern, and especially so in this most sensitive of all relationships of life."
Everyone has to work at Family relationships. Itīs doesnīt come easy. Itīs something that needs a lot of work, but itīs worth it. Thomas Jefferson said, "The happiest moments of my life have been the few which I have passed at home in the bosom of my family."
Written by Linda Weaver Clarke, author of the historical/fiction/romance series: "A Family Saga in Bear Lake, Idaho." To learn more, visit www.lindaweaverclarke.com.
Family must come first and foremost before anything else, even before our career. "No other success can compensate for failure in the home. The poorest shack in which love prevails over a united family is of greater value to God and future humanity than any other riches." David O. McKay
I believe that love, communication, and respect go a long way. I know of five rules that can improve relationships and make a family closer.
1. Parents and children must "show" love by helping each other. Giving service and sharing is what itīs all about.
2. Take time for one another by going on dates with your spouse or having family outings. Itīs amazing what a picnic can do for a family.
3. Communicate with each other and take time to listen. Richard L. Evans said, "If only we could feel we have been heard! If only we would listen when we should!"
4. Show respect to each family member. Never demean another person.
5. Pray together. Abraham Lincoln said, "I remember my motherīs prayers and they have always followed me. They have clung to me all my life."
Money, wealth, and great careers shouldnīt come before family. Money wonīt buy your familyīs love or happiness. Eugene Hansen said, "I learned money and material possessions are not the keys to happiness and success. Even with the constant financial challenge, we still had a good life. There was love in the home. Home was the place where we wanted to be. We did have two very significant items: we had a piano and we had a bookcase. How significant those two somewhat simple possessions were in the development of productive talents and interests so important in our early years."
What our children need is love. Material objects will never replace affection or our absence. "We have been so anxious to give our children what we didnīt have that we have neglected to give them what we did have." Author Unknown.
The relationship between husband and wife is important, also. It should not be neglected. Marriage is a sacred bond between man and woman. We must always work on our relationship. Never embarrass or hurt the feelings of our marriage partner intentionally. Build up the otherīs self-esteem. Treat your partner with respect. Children watch, listen, mimic and follow in our footsteps. They learn quickly. When we show lack of respect to our partner, so will they.
We have to work at marriage. Itīs a lifetime commitment. Mary Stewart Cutting said, "A woman can stand anything but being forgotten, not being needed."
Richard L. Evans said, "All things need watching, working at, caring for, and marriage is no exception. Marriage is not something to be indifferently treated or abused, or something that simply takes care of itself. All things need attention, care and concern, and especially so in this most sensitive of all relationships of life."
Everyone has to work at Family relationships. Itīs doesnīt come easy. Itīs something that needs a lot of work, but itīs worth it. Thomas Jefferson said, "The happiest moments of my life have been the few which I have passed at home in the bosom of my family."
Written by Linda Weaver Clarke, author of the historical/fiction/romance series: "A Family Saga in Bear Lake, Idaho." To learn more, visit www.lindaweaverclarke.com.