Use Your Words by Law Of Attraction Business Coach Jeanna Gabellini

www.MasterPeaceCoaching.com

As the child looks up at his mother, hands waving wildly, his frustration is showing. He’s not getting what he wants and his mother is not reading his mind. She reminds him patiently to, “Wse your words”. He then makes his clear request and gets instant satisfaction. Ahhh….an easy solution for them both.

My mate constantly teases me to “use my words”. I have a good laugh about it because he’s giving me valuable feedback. I hadn’t let him know what I wanted and then found myself disappointed as a result. All I had to do was clearly communicate my expectations or request. I’d have a 99% better chance of my needs being met by speaking them.

It is my experience that many people who think they are great communicators are the first to wonder why so-and-so isn’t giving them the results that they want. If someone is complaining to me about so-and-so I usually respond with, “Did you let so-and-so know what’s going on?” Many times the answer is no. Other times they tell me what they communicated to so-and-so and it has no resemblance to what they really wanting.

Ah, the mastery of speaking your truth. It would solve many problems and prevent even more if we spoke up more and sooner in the game. Many times we wait until we have tolerated an unpleasant situation for waaaaaaay too long before we utter a peep to the person we have a beef with. Other times we stew on a problem and don’t share it with anyone, caught in our own tangled web of thoughts. It never occurs to us that sharing the issue with someone else may help us to create a speedy solution.

I’ve had clients sit on some very nerve wracking thoughts without saying a word for weeks. Ohhhhh! All they had to do was say something. I would’ve made myself available to assist them in moving up that emotional scale towards peace. There are a billion in one reasons they give me for not asking for help. Underneath it all is simply forgetting that they can let others into their world.

The fear of being judged, avoiding confrontation or not knowing how to say something perfectly are usually the culprits of silence. What conversation have you been avoiding? Is there something you’d love to talk to your partner about but don’t want to hurt their feelings? Are you imagining rejection as a possible outcome of a difficult conversation?

What if you began a conversation with the intent of things going your way and being totally understood? What if your intent was to better understand the other person? What if the intent was simply “win-win”? Here’s a really fun perspective to enter dialogue with: “Whatever happens, it’ll be good!” Remember, every conversation is an opportunity to co-create positive movement forward.

Who have you told your dream to? Do the people closest to you know what’s most important to your journey to fulfillment? Many years ago I told my father my desire to purchase a new BMW. If we hadn’t had that conversation I wouldn’t have had him leading me to the car dealership after lunch one afternoon. He supported me when I was dragging my heels. I hadn’t been taking any action to look for my dream car. His support worked. Twenty-four hours later I was driving a silver M3 that I loved!

Being open with people and speaking from your heart generates deep and meaningful conversations. I personally hate small talk. I can do it at a party, but I’d much rather corner someone and talk about what’s important to us both.

Saying the thing that feels a bit vulnerable is always a bit risky for your ego. But in the end, you’ll always get more of what you want with less effort if you’d just speak up.

What? I can’t hear you. Use your words, please.

Jeanna Gabellini is the Extreme Abundance Coach, author, speaker, trainer & radio show host who blends strategies and fun with the Law of Attraction. She coaches individuals and teams to go BIG…effortlessly!

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