Be Effective in Relationships by Law Of Attraction Business Coach Jeanna Gabellini

www.MasterPeaceCoaching.com

What seem to be the issues that cause the average person the most stress? Money, health and relationships. All issues become a mute point with an open mind and a new perspective. The real bummer about getting “sideways” about an area of your life is that you become cut off from the “flow”. Flow means your connection to abundance, synchronicity and joy. Relationship issues tend to stop our flow in all areas of life. We find ourselves wanting to be right and the other person wrong.

Several years ago, I left a long-term relationship. The eight months prior to it ending, sucked up every ounce of energy I had. I could only handled the critical business tasks and my creativity was dead. My joy was at an all time low and so was my income. At the time, I was choosing to let my relationship kill me.

When there is ongoing tension in any relationship, it can lead to health and money declines. I say this not to scare you, but to make you realize that tolerating stress is not worth it! I am not narrowing this to your intimate partner(s). It could be your mom, who lives hundreds of miles away, that you have been avoiding and with whom you have unfinished business. It is somewhat unavoidable to be in relationship with other humans in this world. I am building a case here for everyone striving for more harmonious perspectives about each other.

I want to shed light on how to better understand the beautiful differences between individuals. I have spent over a decade learning how people view the world and how that leads to their specific behaviors. Knowing what makes people tick, their decision making process, and what’s most important to them is your ticket to peace, productivity and in business, more income!

It’s also important to know what triggers stress for the people with whom you interact. This knowledge will dictate how to best communicate so that they can truly hear you. For instance, a “dominant” person will not be able to hear you in the heat of anger. They will want you to hear their point first and they are usually convinced that they are right. Best to wait until they are ready to have an open conversation. This is not true for everyone who is angry.

I have an “influencing” type of behavior. When I’m upset with someone, I want to ask lots of questions so I understand them. I have big time need to know that they care about me and I’m accepted. Once I know they care, it’s easy for me to have grounded communication.

When we understand that we all have different needs, we can stop taking everything so darn personal. Oh, the stories we make up about why so-and-so did such-and-such. Many years ago, I was introduced to do the DISC Behavioral Assessments through TTI International. Life has become so much easier after I was certified to coach people and organizations on their assessment results. Why? Because I’m able to be more responsive and objective to other people, even in the heat of the moment.

Some people need you to get to the bottom line of your point, while others like you to explain every detail. Can you see why it would be important for you to know who needs what? It’s just as important for others to know how YOU operate. It is empowering to both sides of a relationship to educate each other on your personal style of communication.

The man in the relationship that I mentioned earlier, always yelled. I would tell him that his shouting was stress inducing to me. His response, “I’m not yelling”. In his eyes he was just getting his point across. I was taking his volume and tone personally. It wasn’t! I felt much freer because I stopped reacting. When we get curious about why people do what they do, we can be more effective in supporting them in what they want. You’ll also get more of what you want.

Imagine that I’m having lunch with a very analytical friend. I say, “Let’s go skydiving right now”. I have never brought up this topic with this person before now. This person is most likely not going to jump up and say, “Yes!”, without asking me some detailed questions. They’d be concerned about how it works and safety issues. My friend might even ask for some literature about the company who owns the “drop zone”. Analytical people need to see how the whole picture fits together before moving forward.

Someone with my behavioral style is the opposite. I didn’t ask anything, I mean NOTHING, before jumping out of a plane. It didn’t even occur to me to ask questions about the reputation of their planes, instructors, etc. Is this a bad thing? NO! We all operate in such different ways and to assume that your way is better than another’s is ignorant.

As a coach, I can’t be the same with every client. Some of my clients will accept any dare I give them to play bigger in their life. Other client’s thrive with very precise baby steps. If I push certain clients they get into resistant to taking action. Others can jump right over obstacles with the slightest nudge. I need to be aware of each person’s process. You may not be a coach, but knowing what makes the people in your life tick will only lead to flow. It will take some practice to adapt to other’s styles, but it is well worth it. It will you save you time and grief in the long run.

Jeanna Gabellini is the Extreme Abundance Coach, author, speaker, trainer & radio show host who blends strategies and fun with the Law of Attraction. She coaches individuals and teams to go BIG…effortlessly!

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