Upon Being Judged
Judy Ramsook
October 27, 2005
Everyday, no matter what one does, where he/she goes, or how that individual manages to get where he/she is, be it from point A to point B, that person is being judged, or to say the least, looked at.
If, for example, that person happens to be a writer or belong to some similar profession or trade, then he/she is judged by his/her on the job performance by those in the reading community.
For the writer, if a frequent reader of one’s columns comes across a misspelled word, he/she may discount it as a typographical error.
Some one else, on the other hand who might not be a frequent reader of that writer’s pieces, might take the time to send that columnist an email informing the writer of that column of his/her spelling error or errors. And when it comes to the matter of transportation, again one is being judged.
Say one happens to ride the bus. People passing by in their cars who happen to spot that individual at the bus stop might think, either he/she does not own a car, or that car one owns might be in the repair shop, minus the added expense of getting a rental.
Or, especially in this age of high gas prices, one could think maybe that person is trying to economize on the gas. But if one owns a top of the line vehicle and people spot him/her behind the wheel, again he/she is being judged.
And if that vehicle happens to be a little on the less expensive side, yes, again one is judged by that too, and then again, there are some cars that may look as though they are in need of all things cosmetic, or some work on the outer appearance might be needed, of the car that is.
Then say, when one goes out, be it on a trip to the grocery store or shopping mall, he/she does make a point of trying to look presentable.
But say on one particular day, one happens to be in a hurry and he/she dresses well for the most part, except the shoes. Say he/she slips on whatever is on the floor, not in the shoe closet after which he/she merrily goes about his/her business.
But upon arriving at the mall, some people turn to look at that person, and they are not just looking at his/her face, for the individual who is being observed also notices the observers looking at him/her.
He/she observes that their observers' eyes have strayed from the upper part of his/her body down to his/her shoes, at which point some embarrassment might set in, for that person is fully aware that he/she is not wearing one of his/her better pair of shoes.
But whether or not we are being judged, we should be pleased to be a part of the world we are in and also be glad to be a part of what we do as opposed to not being part of anything at all.
And as for the shoe thing, one could keep a nicer pair handy in case, as opposed to not having ample time to rummage through one’s shoe closet next time he/she happens to be in a hurry.
If, for example, that person happens to be a writer or belong to some similar profession or trade, then he/she is judged by his/her on the job performance by those in the reading community.
For the writer, if a frequent reader of one’s columns comes across a misspelled word, he/she may discount it as a typographical error.
Some one else, on the other hand who might not be a frequent reader of that writer’s pieces, might take the time to send that columnist an email informing the writer of that column of his/her spelling error or errors. And when it comes to the matter of transportation, again one is being judged.
Say one happens to ride the bus. People passing by in their cars who happen to spot that individual at the bus stop might think, either he/she does not own a car, or that car one owns might be in the repair shop, minus the added expense of getting a rental.
Or, especially in this age of high gas prices, one could think maybe that person is trying to economize on the gas. But if one owns a top of the line vehicle and people spot him/her behind the wheel, again he/she is being judged.
And if that vehicle happens to be a little on the less expensive side, yes, again one is judged by that too, and then again, there are some cars that may look as though they are in need of all things cosmetic, or some work on the outer appearance might be needed, of the car that is.
Then say, when one goes out, be it on a trip to the grocery store or shopping mall, he/she does make a point of trying to look presentable.
But say on one particular day, one happens to be in a hurry and he/she dresses well for the most part, except the shoes. Say he/she slips on whatever is on the floor, not in the shoe closet after which he/she merrily goes about his/her business.
But upon arriving at the mall, some people turn to look at that person, and they are not just looking at his/her face, for the individual who is being observed also notices the observers looking at him/her.
He/she observes that their observers' eyes have strayed from the upper part of his/her body down to his/her shoes, at which point some embarrassment might set in, for that person is fully aware that he/she is not wearing one of his/her better pair of shoes.
But whether or not we are being judged, we should be pleased to be a part of the world we are in and also be glad to be a part of what we do as opposed to not being part of anything at all.
And as for the shoe thing, one could keep a nicer pair handy in case, as opposed to not having ample time to rummage through one’s shoe closet next time he/she happens to be in a hurry.